You’re screwed no matter how you do things.

My family is hardcore Catholic. The last thing my uncle said to me before he died was this, on Christmas Day: “Why won’t you have kids? You are letting your parents down. They are disappointed with your choices and you are offending God.”

Think “when are you going to have kids?” is bad? I’m a churchy person and get crap for not having enough kids. I have a couple. And I hear about it. A couple kids is clearly not enough to raise up an Army for God or whatever it is they are trying to do these days.

I always thought it was funny when I got the “you have to have more than one child” (back when people thought having ANY kids was something we could do) lectures. All the stuff about how terrible and horrible it is to be an only child and blah blah blah. Then I got to say, “I don’t know. I turned out ok and I’m an…

You’re right—women can’t win. Years ago, after my first child, a girl, was born, my stitches hadn’t even healed before people were asking, “So, are you going to try for a boy now?”

Even when you have two, if they are the same gender, you get harassment for not trying for the other gender. It’s nuts.

My mom was the worst offender until I was about 29 and told her “I can have kids right now if you want to take care of them”

I thought that said “I spend way to much money on my drugs to afford kids”and I z-snapped my right-hand right off.

I’m 35 and child-free by choice, and had an initial appointment with a general practitioner a few years ago. She asked about prior pregnancies (ok, fair question for a medical history). When I said none, she told me that it must have been due to the endometriosis.

So true- I’m shocked at how many people in Atlanta will come right out and say, “Have you considered adopting?” I was initially taken aback that people just assumed I was unable to have children, so now I just say, “Oh no, I spend way to much money on my dogs to afford kids.”

I’m a gay man who coupled off when I was 23 (my husband was 22) in the 80s. I, I, EYE get asked all the time why I never had children. My now-husband and I actually talked about it, in the late 80s. We knew what we wanted to do, two girls, preferably twins, we had the names picked out and everything, I’d stay home and…

I’m really not a confrontational person by nature. But when near strangers started talking shit about my kid I couldn’t keep my mouth shut! And now I get to compare my successful, well adjusted, grown daughter to the messed up adults some of their multiple children turned out to be. 😈

“i know a lawyer who is great with finding adoption placements from good family backgrounds, do you want to setup an introduction meeting?”

I’ve been asked routinely since getting married almost 18 years ago, and even more lately. People seem to be worried that I might not know that I’m approaching 40 and don’t have much time left. It’s not fun.

Honestly I’ve never heard anyone ask “why don’t you have kids”. And on the rare occasion children are brought up, it’s more in a “get to know you” kind of way, not in a “judge you if you don’t have kids” kind of way. Kinda like asking someone where they’re originally from or what they do for a living.

In the past several years, I’ve lived on the East Coast, in the Midwest and whatever region you’d classify Texas as being in.

Rude people are everywhere, but when I moved to the South there was an enormous uptick of people demanding to know when I will get married, when I will have kids, how many kids do I think I will have, etc. I have had so many people down here refer to my boyfriend as my husband, just because why WOULDN’T I be married?…

We are a child free couple, and both of us have been asked this, even up here in Canuckistan.

Live in Seattle. To me, its more of an age thing. Women in their 50s give me the “Oh you’ll change your mind” or “That’s what I said too, until I had (child),” while to people my own age or younger it’s no big deal.

Rude people live everywhere. Mr. Portas and I chose to have only 1 child. People constantly asked when we were having another. After I said we weren’t planning anymore they had no problem telling me how bad for a child it was not to have siblings. That only children were spoiled, socially awkward, blah, blah, blah. I…