Ugh. I stopped performing 4 years ago, and I honestly didn’t think this happened under the watch of the bigger, mainstream companies. It was way more prevalent than I thought. I had one bad experience on set, but it didn’t rise to the level of legally actionable.

My overly-familiar grandma said I looked sexy in a dress when I was like 14. The same year my equally well-meaning grandpa said I was “getting quite shapely.”*

I did that too. Within a couple of weeks I was appalled with myself.

I’ve been reading that her father and brother both warned the police in the area that she had a grudge against youtube, had traveled up there for a reason, and “might do something.” Some officers actually located her several hours before the shooting, sleeping in her car, but no action was taken. (Truthfully I’m not…

Yes! My cat gets that look when she kills chipmunks and mice! I don’t like to spoil it for her.

That was the first thing I wondered about. How often do we think the fathers are inappropriate? That’s especially dangerous since Au Pairs are younger, and it doesn’t sound like there’s anyone they can alert if that happens.

You probably aren’t aware that the industry has a record number of female producers as well as LGBT-friendly companies who have been producing what is intended to be feminist porn for a while. Stormy Daniels is also a director and wrote a chapter for a book called “Naked Ambition,” which contains accounts from dozens…

Will and Grace is much more political now, but it’s funny and light hearted, with the eventual message being that common decency supracedes politics.

I was a porn performer too. For the record, my boundaries became MORE strict when I became a performer, because I realized everyone I knew outside the industry was trying to take sex from me, and I couldn’t stand it. Some people may react to the same phenomenon by acquiescing further. People’s sexual preferences and…

THIS one again. When I read about what he did to that poor girl, my blood boiled. I truly felt homicidal. Especially about the incident where he beat her within an inch of her life because she sang lyrics to one of his that were performed by another male artist. The POS only allows her to sing songs + lyrics that are…

A club with a 10$ house fee? (That accepts women outside the “skinny” and “skinny with boobs” prototypes?) When I started dancing in New York in 2011, the house fee was between 100 and 200, depending on the weekday, and it was $60 at the sketchy underground club where I ended up dancing instead (because $100-$200 of…

I am extremely confused. What exactly is the issue with weighing 130 pounds? I thought that was a typo, but then I checked other articles about the same quote. Is 130 shamefully high for women? Or shamefully low for men?

I think sometimes people feel like they have to fuck themselves out of certain situations if things get sexual. Her spanking him unexpectedly changed the atmosphere, he got horny, and it sounds like her feeling was “dammit, now I have to have sex with him.”. I used to feel that way sometimes, for instance if I started…

Slam poetry, and in particular that girl’s slam poetry is so powerfully cool.

That’s disappointing to hear. I suspect mental health statistics will disappoint me too. At least we’re less likely to contract and spread STIs.

My first impression of Aubrey O’Day; “what kind of bitch goes on RuPaul’s drag race to roll her eyes and make stupid faces and be all-around super rude to the queens?”

The book tour for the Pence book includes a Focus on the Family event - FOTF is a hateful fundamentalist organization that supports conversion therapy. Some people believe the book is politicized by its connection to that group - I’m inclined to agree. This seems to be what influenced Oliver to commission the rival…

That fucking tongue-face is a vision of my nightmares. I wish someone in her life would tell her to stop.

I wonder if his wife is allowed to criticize the president.

I was in it too. I was pretty lucky on set, but I was raped by a director off set, and eventually everything sexual became triggering for me. I had to stop.