Thank you. We did have a talk about it last night and I made it very clear that it is completely unacceptable. He was so embarrassed and horrified with himself after, and basically said what you said, that his older brother (who he followed around and adored as a kid) would sometimes use that word, and that ever since…

Thank you for your reply. I have never heard him use that language or even anything near it in 2 and a half years of dating and nearly 2 years of living together, so it definitely isn’t a normal behavior, and I’ve made it very clear to him that it cannot be a recurring one. For what it is worth (and it isn’t worth…

It was more scared, definitely. I am not going to give him any excuses, but your response kind of validated what my initial feelings were about it. He was extremely embarrassed and apologetic afterward. I wish that word wasn’t in his vocabulary even to use, but I also understand the impulse to say horrible things when…

Thanks for your input! He did apologize and expressed embarrassment, but I am still just so shaken. It was very out-of-character, and I need to reevaluate what it will mean for us going forward.

He definitely knows I am furious about it. It is just such an aberration in behavior for him, and I am shaken and second-guessing everything. I don’t want to make any excuses for him, because there is no excuse, but it is so hard to reconcile with what I know about him...

This is OT but I need some advice. My boyfriend very recently used a racial slur (the n-word) in front of me, and I have no idea how to address it. It was used very much in a heat of the moment when another vehicle almost merged into us on the freeway, but that is no excuse in my opinion. I have no idea how to address…

Semi-related: I saw a woman at a Trump rally on the news wearing a “Hilliary for Prison” and for the life of me I could not figure it out. In my head, I kept reading it as “Hilli-ary” not like “Hill-liar-y” and was like what the fuck is Hilli-ary supposed to be???

Arbitrary, but I used to work there: they generally use the blue for their clinic/Healthcare related publications, and the pink for their political action/fundraising materials. I don’t think it’s a hard and fast rule, but just a general observation!

I had been on pills since high school until I tried the ring in college- I only lasted on the ring for 3 months before switching back to pills because my moodswings on the ring were so bad, but even switching back to the same pill I’d taken for years didn’t level out my moods. I decided after college to try the copper…

I met my boyfriend via OK Cupid, and we are going on 2 1/2 years strong. I think free apps get a bad wrap, but it’s all about finding someone who is looking for the same things you are. Understandably, more people will use the free apps for hook ups because people in general aren’t going to pay a dating app just to…

I met my boyfriend via OK Cupid, and we are going on 2 1/2 years strong. I think free apps get a bad wrap, but it’s all about finding someone who is looking for the same things you are. Understandably, more people will use the free apps for hook ups because people in general aren’t going to pay a dating app just to…

I asked the same thing the last time she came up in an article on here, and also felt like an asshole, so I feel you on this. I guess (maybe to her credit?) it wasn’t hugely publicized?

Cancer is the absolute worst- Sending all my good vibes and thoughts to your family!! I have thought about genetic testing, and I probably will get tested for the BRCA mutations at some point, because I know relatives have tested positive for it, but my doctors have always advised to wait until my mom gets tested for…

Same here... my mom’s side is a whole crapshoot of predisposition to various cancers... I’ve basically accepted the fact that I will have breast or ovarian cancer at some point in my life.

The one on the right kind of looks like Martin Freeman...

I live Rosemary and Thyme so much, but I would never keep them on retainer because every time they go anywhere, people start dropping like flies...

Maybe you deserve an extra-special belated golden birthday celebration for your ext since you just found out what it is! :)

I haven’t the faintest idea, it’s just always been a thing! I guess I figured it was a universal, or at least universally American thing? I’ve never known anyone who has done anything special or extraordinary for a golden birthday vs. any other birthday, so I’m really not sure why it is even distinguished from any…

There was a girl in my elementary school whose golden birthday was her turning 9 on 9/9/99.

No, I’m not! But I was honestly surprised the name was still available here, so I’m not surprised someone has it over there!