That's how I was with my kids. Feeling like if I could only throw up, maybe I would feel better. Is this #3 for you?

Right. Even if she didn't use ART, I just find it unseemly that she makes such a big deal out of ostensibly not. As if it matters, and as if she's somehow more of a woman because she allegedly conceived naturally.

There is a question of whether a choice can be made freely under economic duress. Particularly as folks increasingly turn to surrogacy in places like India, where they can pay less (but still a lot for impoverished women), it starts to look very ugly.

So, if my family and I were starving and you offered me food, but…

No, but then there are celebrities like JLo who make a huge point of claiming not to have used fertility treatments. I mean, she pushes that narrative hard, beyond the point where anyone really cared anymore. I mean, I suppose it's possible that she tried for years and then spontaneously got pregnant with boy/girl…

To be clear, I'm not taking him to task for changing his mind. I'm taking him to task for using the fact that he changed his mind as a bludgeon to sue for sole custody(!). She made the choice to move across the country while Miller was still claiming to want nothing to do with her or the child. So she made the best…

Right, and going to a university with a program specifically tailored for student-moms isn't the same as going to one without such a program. In other words, neither of them had an easy choice to make. Except one of them abdicated their role, and changed their mind later, and it wasn't the mom.

Columbia has a program explicitly tailored for non-traditional students, particularly mothers.

More to the point, IT DOESN'T MATTER why she chose New York. She was pregnant, and the biological father told her to terminate, and said he had no interest in the child. Even if she just wanted to go to Columbia because…

Right, and this site is full of weird names: http://www.deseretnews.com/article/865568…

Yeah, Gemmabeta has a good theory that it comes from Arabic, Shaheed. That makes sense to me.

The joke is that you pronounce the dash. So, it is pronounced Ladasha.

But no one ever can prove that such a lady exists and she is always described as poor and black.

Remember, the only way to win the Mommy Wars is not to play.

....and congratulations!

STAY OFF THE PREGNANT LADY BOARDS!!!!!ONE!

That's a great point. I'll bet you are right.

Ok, here's the one case in which they may be telling the truth. I've heard but haven't verified that Shithead is a legitimate South Asian name.

Ok, Hermione is an actual name.

"Derived from the name of the Greek messenger god HERMES. In Greek myth Hermione was the daughter of Menelaus and Helen. This is also the name of the wife of Leontes in Shakespeare's play 'The Winter's Tale' (1610). It is now closely associated with the character Hermione Granger from…

I mean, it's a big world and maybe, somewhere, there is a La-a. Maybe. But it's funny how these stories always involve a semi-literate African American woman who hears a word while in labor and "just thinks that it is pretty."

...and CUE the racist urban legends about La-a and Eczema. http://www.snopes.com/racial/languag…

Eh, I think it's possible that she had no idea how big this could blow up. If you live your whole life in a tiny church circle, you may not know that millions of strangers on the internet would be outraged by your bad behaviour.

I really like NFP, personally. It forces me to really pay attention to my cycle. It's clearly not the right choice for everyone, but it's a great choice for me.

I hope your 37-weeker was just fine, by the way!

I'm not at all bothered by either of those things, if they work and she has the consent of the mother!