Me too! The math was more disturbing to me than the story.

There has been one story that haunted me in Jezebel history but I have never been able to find it since. Anyone recall the one where the writer continually encountered an entity in their dream that looked a little like it had a pumpkin scarecrow head, and it realized that the writer had caught on that it was the same…

OKC polyamorists in my experience: couples or coupled males who want all the social and romantic privileges of traditional heterosexual monogamy in tandem with the privileges of singlehood (without extending these romantic benefits to all their partners) while assuming they should be lauded for being so subversive and…

Naw, Emma Stone is basic AF.

And you know there’s going to be a really pretentious new moniker for monogamy like “dual romantic” or “paired genital preference” without actually changing anything about the institution itself.

Bi women were also thought to be inconsistent. While bisexual women are speaking out more, I think bisexual erasure is much stronger for males because heterosexuality and patriarchy permits girl love for the male gaze, but like you say, gay men deny bi maleness and so do straight men.

*cough...* UNICORN HUNTERS *cough*

Exactly! I prize intensity over... extensity (?)

I went through a period where I was tired of dating men and I opened up my profile to women - but I never ended up pursuing anyone because I didn’t feel sexually attracted. Emotionally - yes. I love women. But I have never gotten off thinking about a woman despite trying... It just doesn’t work for me.

I was trying to remember Bukowski’s name but yes. But it just goes to show - the most unconventional they get is still the unconventional brand of white guy. And he’s no longer unconventional, really (at least if OKC is any indication).

This! The assumption that any woman is bisexuality waiting to happen. I really, really wanted to be bisexual. Turns out there’s no bursting love of other vaginas lying dormant in my loins. Yay for greater visibility of bi-folks, but here I feel that it has been distorted by male scientists and the male gaze.…

I spent this spring and summer in Montreal! I suspect that it is more the case in Montreal and Ottawa than in other cities in Canada.

That is fucking amazing. I have to thank you for this deep belly laugh this Monday morning (it’s morning here).

I hate that so much, that the “third” person (generally female) is the one who gets screwed over - that your pleasure would be inconsequential to them getting their kicks and sorting out their mutual issues. If it were truly about bucking social norms and offering emancipatory, egalitarian ways of loving, it would be…

That gives me slightly more hope at dating prospects as a monogamous type. But OKC has the best screening process - Plenty of Fish and Tinder tell you very little about the person (except that they are cool with using POF and Tinder which is somewhat telling I guess).

The weirdest part of that universal Vonnegut-ism is that each seems to think that Vonnegut is this incredibly niche discovery only he knows about which makes him such a discerning intellectual.

I have been tempted once or twice for a split second to respond “yes” to an overture from a poly person... And then I envisioned exactly the scenario you speak of. It really sucks that you experienced that :p I also kind of hate how male-dominated the culture seems to be, with the very idea of a “one penis policy” and…

Even a lot of married couples (throuples? foursomes?) are doing it. People talk about a paradigm shift and a different way of seeing love. I get the possibility of different philosophies about relationships, and I am sure that some people exist who work really hard at maintaining the ethos of really caring for your…

Okcupid has taught me that you can’t throw a stone without hitting a polyamorous person. If those demographics are any indication of offline statistics, I am the last monogamous person under 35.

Second dude from the left knows what’s up