Thank you! You sound just like a good friend of mine. I’d like to box everything up and send it to him (except the million sex toys and A/C because I need those) to send a message, but I doubt he would care. He’d probably regift them.

Thank you. Honestly, after reading all the replies and replying, I’m starting to believe that he didn’t. It’s just SUCH a mindfuck that he could fake all that shit. I’m not exaggerating how much effort he put into being with me. He’s gotta be seriously mentally ill, which is a possibility I’ve considered from the…

I really don’t think so. Trust me, I racked my brain on this. I thought maybe they were living together at MOST. If I thought he actually loved her or was living a real life with her, I would’ve left him. You’d have to meet him to see how convincing he is (not that you would want to). I believed what he said for the…

I absolutely believe it has. If he can do this to me, what must her brain look like. Maybe she’s not. I’ll never know, I guess.

I want him to be fucking miserable. I didn’t feel this way prior to posting my story, but now that I’m starting to see he really is fucking scum, I want him to lose everything, especially his license. But obviously that’s not in my control

Does it? I feel like I’ll never get over this. I’ve been crying for 9 days straight and waiting to run out of tears. I’m getting wrinkles on the sides of my mouth from sobbing so hard :(

I did! It was great to be with him. I was so grateful every day to have such an amazing guy in my life. I think that’s what’s making this difficult to wrap my head around. Besides the weird home life story, he was the perfect boyfriend. I sort of have to process it as his death because the sweet, generous, adorable…

Honestly, she came off as quite unstable, which I can absolutely believe since she’s been with this asswipe for 13 years. I don’t think that means she’s a bad person. I do believe the suicidal thing because she told me when he cheated the first time, she stopped eating. And she told me since she found out this time…

I’ve just got to start to believe this. I’ve been telling myself there’s no way he could ditch me like this if he ever truly loved me. I guess I was right all along. I hate him

Thank you. I think he has to be a fucking master con artist. Our love built slowly and he was never glib or gratuitous with the compliment or loving words. I guess maybe I’m dumb

Thank you. With all he did, it’s so hard not to. I mentioned upthread that my mom, a cynic, was SHOCKED because she too believed he would lasso the moon. He never came off as a disingenuous person. He was never gratuitous with the compliments either. When I asked why, he said “because if I tell you how amazing you are…

I hope she leaves his ass. I can’t bear the idea of him having his perfect high paying job in his perfect state (I always argued solely in the “let’s live in California” camp), with his easily manipulated wife who he can probably make pretend to be me if he ever gets a pang. We were looking at real estate together.…

Oh, I’m FURIOUS just trying to tamp it down for my own sake. After he blocked me, I was fucking throwing shit around my room. The sadness and the anger come in waves, but the anger is so intense it frightens me.

Thank you! I’m currently seeing one and made an appointment with her for Monday.

Thank you! There are all these replies about him being a sociopath, which I can’t help believing at this point, but I truly hope that he is struggling with horrible guilt. He deserves to. Bonus points for him always saying he would kill for me and never wanted to see me hurting. I believed every word that came out of…

That’s truly fucking vile. It frightens me that people actually do this. I knew there were hooey things, but I NEVER doubted that he loved me.

And he planned the trip himself! I didn’t even invite him, though I was super happy he wanted to come. How crazy is that? He bonded with my mom and told me he thinks of her as his mom. My mother is ill from this too. She believed that we would be together for life and she is a super cynical woman. That’s how…

Thank you! I don’t think either of us deserve it either. and he was SO convincing. The reason I always believed him was that he didn’t show much emotion or get excited about much, but when he told me he loved me, I saw it in his eyes. That sounds so corny, but I don’t know how else to describe it. And for the most…

Thank you. I’m hoping I can come back from this, but I feel like a large piece of me has died

This is what I fear. Can you be a mistress without being complicit though? It’s hard to get across in a post, but we loved each other so much. Why would he work so hard to make me love him and plan our future with me when I didn’t even need his love in the first place? The last day we talked, he said he wanted to…