I have a slightly different take on that: If he doesn’t tell his wife—who clearly values honesty—about this, then she can’t make a choice as to whether or not being with him is right for her. And that’s the rub.

Exactly! And you can’t make people participate in your bullshit. I spent so much time, and created so much hurt for others, in thinking I could just keep inserting myself into other peoples’ lives to try to “repay” or “make it up to them” after I did stupid, hurtful shit. I then felt like the victim when people would…

This is wise. Forgiveness is an ongoing process rather than an absolute one time epiphany that fixes things. It’s taken my whole adult life to learn this, hell I’m still learning it.

I was so happy to see that the advise was don’t tell her.  If you tell your wife you will transfer the emotional pain and burden of the secret to her, you will feel better, she will feel worse.  And it is unlikely your relationship will recover. This your pain and shame to endure. 

You’re wife didn’t bring it up again because she wants to know more. She wants to know if you’re trustworthy, and she thinks more information will help her know for sure.

Sometimes you just have to stand there in your wrongness and be wrong. That might mean telling the truth and dealing with the consequences, or it might mean keeping it to yourself and dealing with that emotional burden. Only you can determine which option is the better one based on the specifics of your relationship…

Came down here JUST for that... on my life, this appears to be the hardest lesson of that early adulthood transition - some things don’t get re-dos.  Some decisions you make are fucking permanent and there is no scripted resolution where everyone lives happily ever after and things work out.  Reasons why it’s all the…

This crisis you’ve been suppressing isn’t meant to be resolved, it’s meant to be endured.

This is thoroughly appalling but entirely unsurprising; the justice system is as broken and corrupt as everything else in the U.S.

No. There are too many people in that place to begin with. My job is just giant crowds of people and that is only tolerable because I have some small modicum of control over them, and the idea of returning to them is terrifying. Because no one is going to wear a mask and they’re gonna be crabby. 

Employees would all be temperature checked before starting work and wear masks for the duration of their shifts.

Sadly ... nope can’t see us doing it. I mean we weren’t planning on going to Disney for another 2 years when the tiny human is a little older BUT I can’t see us doing anything like we normally would have this summer ... no local aquarium at the boardwalk ... no splash pad playground parks ... no summer day trip to…

A former boss of mine years ago said to me “Your problem is that you rely on other people knowing what they’re doing. You have to assume they don’t and plan accordingly.”

Look forward to approx. 200 “Obamagate” tweets.

Every living president has a moral imperative to step forth and condemn this president. Protocol be damned.

I’m sure Cheeto is, at this very moment, sitting on the toilet trying not to rage stroke over Obama’s (extremely polite) read.

Uh, what? I think it’s highly reasonable for a company to never rehire someone who violated federal employment law again. No one is saying he can’t work anywhere again for the rest of his life. And sexual misconduct wasn’t a career-killer for your Republican president either, so feel free to gtfo with that partisan…

Couple of things here, bub:

Hey, don’t forget republican presidents as well. You know, the ones that brag around grabbing women by the pussy. Just making sure you’re saying something “fair and balanced” and not just another whiny, self-justifying troll.

Where does it say that he’s not supposed to return? Hazel simply pointed out that he was returning and the reason for his original dismissal - and being a woman’s site and all, this is something we probably find interesting. But nowhere did she say he should not be able to return, or that it should carry a life…