Every time I have said yes.

SNIPERS on his front lawn? For (what turned out to be false) alleged robbery? Jesus Christ.

If you believe the narrative that it's "your special day" and grew up thinking you just wanted one day to "be a princess" while men are told "it's all about the bride that day, don't even bother" , THIS is what happens.

Right, so that pricey stressful wedding BS still happened, but you were smart enough not to force those insane costs on your bridesmaids (because you didn't have any) right? My point, whether eloquently worded or not, was that that while the author was saying the costs of being a bridesmaid were insane and that it…

"I still haven't had my wedding pictures developed and we've been married almost 20 years."

I can't imagine a situation where I wouldn't feel comfortable saying to a friend of a friend—"that sounds really fun, but just isn't within my financial means right now. I'd be happy to try to find some cheaper options, but if you want to go ahead as planned without me, I understand. Have a great time!"

It is, actually, as easy as "Jen, you know I love you but I can't do Vegas on top of the wedding." That is a respectful and tactful way of turning down an invitation and would maybe allow the other ladies to think outside themselves and consider other options that everyone can participate in. Yes, feelings might be…

My husband was also like this. Which was fine by me. But just because this happened this way for me - and you- doesn't mean that it's the norm. I think it's safe to say that the majority of the time, it's the women who want all the things. I think BurnedByDay has a point when he says sexist is probably not the best…

Even more galling are the people who put little cards in their invitations saying that if you can't go to the wedding, would you mind making a donation for the designation wedding? One of my cousins did this and it took all of my willpower to not photocopy my ass and send it back to her with a declination.

Please.

So hear you. I've started turning friends down who ask. Because, I've got this bug up my ass about this "unmarried/non-breeding people deserve nothing!" shit. See - I'm more than willing to participate. Buy the gown, pay for gifts, chip in for the limo, etc. etc. But, it's absolutely NEVER reciprocated. I'm…

Oh shove that MRA nonsense up your ass. It's your fucking problem that you can't tell Heather her wedding demands are too damn much, not society's. It's your damn fault you can't tell someone who is supposedly your friend that they are asking too much of your time and your resources and to reconsider their demands.…

I confess, I don't have a ton of sympathy for what essentially boils down to "it's not that simple because a bunch of grown women act like hypersensitive children".

Even if more than one shower has become common practice, people should not be invited to more than one shower. It makes sense to have multiple showers if your family and friends live in different cities, for example. But having multiple showers as a means of obtaining multiple gifts from the same people is just tacky…

You know why it's different? Because if I were asked to go to three different showers, buy a tux and go to a destintion bachelor party I, and every single one of the groom's friends, would tell the groom to go fuck himself.

I consider the financial expectations that are placed on women in bridal parties to be excessive, unreasonable and sexist

So women spending far too much money on events surrounding a wedding is sexist? No, it's silly and wasteful and it's entirely preventable but this aint me and the boys ensuring you can't come into the club house or ensuring you won't get the promotion or the deserved raise because of your gender, this is keeping up…

Don't worry, anonymity brings out the martyr complexes. Most reasonable people understand that not every medical condition is diagnosable by any competent clinician. I would love some of these people to explain exactly what the doctor should have done when the tests came back negative. And none of this lazy "keep…

I think she's got some seriously vapid, short sighted, attention whore issues...But neither of us are medical professionals.

I'm struggling to think of something more patronizing or inappropriate than telling someone she needs to get laid. Gross.