I really think you're making the article to be something that it isn't. She brings up the possibility that this could be problematic, but eventually decides that it's overall a good thing. I guess I'm confused on your reaction. Isn't the idea that rape prevention should be aimed at perpetrators a good thing?

It was in the article. Try reading it again.

Why are you here then?

I agree with this. Just has a side note because I want to rant:

I agree with your statement above, but I would categorize being roofied in a bar as closer to being raped after feeling like you are in a relatively safe place by a peer, not by a crazy sociopath in the bushes.

I swear I try not to be a violent person, but I burst out laughing at your response. Perfect.

Exactly, I feel like if patrons had a choice, many women wouldn't pay of it even if they wanted it because it doesn't fit in with all the other glasses. All the cups should be those sippy cups you get at plays or baseball games.

I think you are awesome for going up to those guys, but most people do not have the courage to do that.

Dismiss that shit stain, 5thwheel.

Oh my god, I hope you were OK.

Holy shit. What the fuck. HOLY SHIT.

I actually think there is an easy way to do this. Most rapists are not crazy sociopaths. They are men who believe that it's OK to have sex with their girlfriend or friend when she's passed out, or that it's OK to use verbal coercion to get someone to have sex with you when they've told you that they don't. I actually…

Everything you just said. Statistically you are more likely to be drugged and raped by someone you know and trust than some stranger at a bar.

Listen, I don't think marilove is responding in an intelligent way, but you have to understand that the fire analogy and your car analogy is problematic. Rape victims are blamed for their crimes at rates that most other crime victims aren't. Making an analogy which compares women to objects is offensive precisely…

"One of the most racist people I know is this white girl I go to school with who says nigga from time to time"

I'm trying to address your statement about academics. Academics would consider boy and girl to be social constructs. Just because you've never met anyone who thinks that doesn't make my statement any less true. And yes, it is important for a greater conversation about gender identity because it raises awareness about…

Hey! Just wanted to leave another comment. I think you are awesome to take on all some of the comments below (i.e. the argument that boy and girl are not social constructs). I've been really disappointed in the comments in general for the article. As a feminist, I want to believe that feminist community is inclusive,…

Congrats on your upcoming birth! Yay!

Hi! Academic here, "boy" and "girl" are generally considered social constructs, "male" and "female" are considered a statement of underlying biology.

First off, I just want to say that I love reading your articles because they are really well written and give me insight to something I have not experienced personally.