Yeah, at the risk of sounding pretentious, I keep coming back to a quote by Ta-Nehisi Coates about how racism works, because it drills down so successfully on how bigotry works not so much by active malice, as by subtly and continually shifting burdens of proof off of those in charge, and onto the beleagured: Read more
I went to graduate school for a degree in a male-dominated STEM field. The culture in the department and university was terrible. Women were routinely sexually harassed and silenced through the department. I built up a group of women in the department and fought for two hard years alongside them and other amazing… Read more
As a white woman who has lived most of my adult life in Prince George’s County, I go to talks at the African American museum, I go to the poetry readings and social justice panels at Busboys, I eat in small businesses owned by black women, I volunteer on local political campaigns, I go to art openings, concerts, black… Read more
As a white woman, a big step for me was accepting that my presence can be reasonably assessed as a threat to any person of color. It is entirely rational to view me with suspicion and as a potential source of danger. It sucks being pre-judged based on my race. And that is the lived experience of every non-white… Read more
This whole Clapback:
People aren’t upset that he tried to help. People are upset that he: Read more
I spent the better part of my older child’s Year 3 feeling like, “So God is real, and he’s punishing me...” I often referred to him (among my girlfriends) as an emotional terrorist, cock-blocker, or “not my kid.” People talk about the “Terrible Twos” but, holy shit, just wait until your kid is bigger, faster and mouthi… Read more
My ex’s brother once met Hunter Thompson and he explained that he believed them to be distant cousins, and that he thought Hunter’s Aunt Helen was his mother’s second cousin or whatever. Hunter listened politely and was reasonably engaging. When they parted, Hunter asked for a business card. A few weeks later, a copy… Read more
You wouldn’t say that if you saw all the anal probing we get up to.
DAVE MATTHEWS IS IN FACT THE WORST.
Gifting is my love language. When I see something I know a friend will love, I gift it. It brings me joy. Wedding registries and gifts are sorta obligatory which completely turns me off to them. As someone who picks and meticulously wraps gifts (my fav!) for holidays and birthdays, I can say I’ve bought a wedding… Read more
Yeah. I’m not necessarily against the “scare people into doing what is urgently necessary to protect their very lives” tactic, but there are ways to do that that aren’t ... this. And for people who don’t have the resources for getting out, that’s exactly what emergency management should be for. Ideally, I would think… Read more
Taylor doesn't wear Tom after Labor Day.
