Ex-professional dominatrix here. I had a few findom clients but chose not to focus my practice around it. I found that the guys can be REALLY high maintenance. People often think findom is an easy, no effort way to make money (a mistake people make about sex work in general) but it is NOT.

This is something my partner and I discuss semi-oftenly. We will occasionally invite a guest into our bedroom or treat ourselves to a night at the baths, and increasingly often when it’s time for condoms the guy will be like “oh no need, I’m on PREP / undetectable.” Sometimes they’ll say this while standing in front…

that simple daily dose cost me $400 for the one-month course i needed for post-exposure prophylaxis, and that’s with my commercial insurance. without it, the monthly cost can be four or five figures - well out of the range of most people’s ability to pay

not really. these studies are looking specifically at populations with hiv that is controlled and treatable via medication, and specifically omits strains that are drug resistant. these results only show that if a person who’s hiv+ has a strain that responds to antiretroviral medication, they can get to a point where…

As someone who lost a lot of friends to the AIDS epidemic in my youth and who subsequently spent a lot of time doing STD and LGBT work this is a trend that really upsets me. These wonderful anti-virus pills they don’t work on everyone and they don’t exist for a lot of the STD’s out there. I’m all for sexual freedom…

There are blackout and sex parties at every gay bar in my city at least once a month, and I still can’t get behind the new prep culture of bareback anonymous sex. It’s a complete slap in the face to everybody who fought for AIDS research and awareness for decades. And in this political climate I can’t help but point…

I’m pretty sure you completely missed the point. Like Vice, the only gay people Jezebel seems to hire are white cismen to write about their perspectives. I am stating that I would be curious to hear from a lesbian POV from time to time, or a bi man, or a trans man if they have any on staff. Rich and Mark seemed to be…

Not to knock gay men, but this reads exactly like the last two pieces you wrote about gay male sex parties a few years ago. Can... we get gay things on this website that aren’t from the POV of gay men all the time or that too much to ask. Does Jezebel not have anyone gay on the staff that isn’t a cismale?

Yup. The partner-swapping is fine, if consensual, understanding the rules, etc. But what really grossed me out was using the kids as pawns for sexual fantasies. What happens when the kids grow up and figure it out?? They would need all sorts of therapy once they realize, “But she took would take me to school! And Mom…

During the presentation I went to, they said that studies show this actually doesn’t happen— people don’t go on PrEP then say “cool now i can have unsafe sex with a bunch of strangers and nothing can hurt me.” While I don’t dispute the studies you mentioned, I don’t think that rises in other STIs can strictly be tied…

You’re not essentially different but you have one difference and yes, your genitalia are important to sex, so yes it’s OK for a guy to be unsure about entering a sexual relationship with you. Some straight women don’t want to enter a sexual relationship with a guy who is uncircumcised. That is a thing that those guys…

Haha, no bragging here. Just chiming in to say that I dated two women in their mid-30's when I was 20-22 who were very adamant about teaching me how to not be a selfish piece of shit.

Articles like this are fine but the real education should be teaching women how to say what they want and partners how to accept it without hurt feelings

umm no sorry didn’t you read the article all women like it all women like the same things getting a woman off is just like a video game up up down down ABAB down down up start

I don’t like deep kissing/French kissing. Yuck.

Well, in the “grey” world, a 6 to 7 stroke spanking session is the worst it can get so....ugh. She would have died if she had gotten my birthday gift.

1.) I can’t believe Joanna doesn’t know what those beads are. The fact that I do clearly says my friends are more disgusting than yours.

I haven’t! I know Jenny trout has talked a fair amount about being a sub, and seems incredibly knowledgeable about BDSM, but she’s the main 50 Shades hater that I read.

I never miss an opportunity to link to Jenny Trout’s wonderful recaps of this series. She rips it to shreds, and details exactly why this shit is not BDSM, it’s abuse (she also explains all the ways in which the series is blatant plagiarism).

The Atlantic did a nice examination of why these books show abuse, not BDSM (or at least responsible BDSM): http://www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2015/02/consent-isnt-enough-in-fifty-shades-of-grey/385267/