Yep, I was really surprised Vanessa didn’t mention that in the article.

A couple of other points:

I’ve found the simple reason I don’t enjoy threesomes is that it just ends up being too much work, something that I’ve heard from a number of other people. It ends up being a bucket list item that’s been checked.

Oh, while I unfortunately have zero doubt that every stripper in the world has gotten solicited by customers, I was referring to that it’s far rarer for the reverse to happen (despite common myth and fears suggesting otherwise.)

On the one hand, I’m sympathetic given that you’re right: this has precious little to do with sex trafficking and everything to do with moralizing, religion, and winning votes.

I’m sure you didn’t, given you were a woman posting in w4m. As you said, you’d receive hundreds of responses per ad.

One of the things that’s sad about this is that if you’re under 30 or so, you have this impression of CL personals as a wasteland of really fucked up individuals that you’d sit around on Friday nights laughing at from your dorm room, because for the last few years that’s largely all who has been left on it.

Alpha blockers are notorious for retrograde ejaculation, but the side effect is not generally known outside folks who prescribe them a lot (either cardiologists or urologists).

Nope, you’re good and pretty much there. After I wrote that I realized a much simpler way to explain the difference: the article is talking about something that feels to me to be much closer to cam work or stripping, where it’s expected the client is to be exploited without any concern (and where there’s at least some…

Were you doing more physical related stuff at that point? That’s relatively easy to pick up, but both from my experience and from what I’ve heard elsewhere it’s very rare to get the mental side down that early.

Because regardless of if it’s paid or not, if it’s done correctly, the heart of BDSM is based on trust and consent.

Dead on with all your observations. One thing that I often hear from dommes of the non-professional sort is that they genuinely can’t figure out a lot of the men they do so with, and to me that’s a very short hop to concluding that a sub is mentally unstable. To me, that is a do-not-pass-go moment as a dom for a…

What this article doesn’t hint at is that it’s not as much about looks but about actually putting in the effort to meet the needs of your sub.

A related quote on the subject from Charlie Jane Anders from her article about AIDS truthers on Gizmodo from a couple years back.

All the stars for this, and I wish Rich would at least acknowledge it in his continued ‘yay for bareback orgies!!!’ series of essays.

And we also have this other release from the CDC from two days ago, where the rate of other STD infections is now the highest ever reported.

Yep, exactly. Rich’s last piece on teens and HIV back in July nicely dodged this point in favor of ‘yay, sex!’, and this one isn’t any better with the one line throwaway (“At sex parties themselves, by the way, STIs are rarely a topic of conversation”).

Thanks for this. A while back I got slammed on Jezebel during their own sex series for even suggesting that nipple orgasms were possible for many women. Cracked me up; oh the horror of experimentation! It’s a sad statement about porn that so many of the things that are useful in bed just aren’t shown.

http://lifehacker.com/how-to-play-with-breasts-1798553652

Ugh. One part slightly right, the other really bad.