Um, men are not just now adjusting. I was an RA at my college 25 years ago and we were talking about mutual consent then, and we always had men complaining that it took the "romance" out of things. None if this stuff is new.

I would add to my other comment: the story about forcing the sorority pledges for watch lesbian porn and perform oral sex may seem more overtly sexual than shooting darts at naked pledges, but both are designed to degrade, humiliate, exert power over others etc I think the sex part is secondary in both examples, yet…

I guess I would put it in the category of bizarre homoerotic, mean to be degrading, demeaning etc but possibly titillating for some. My dad told stories of naked paddling at his frat in the 50s. Why naked? Yes, more painful but all kinds of weird undertones there. My dad ended up deciding it was BS and quitting.

I worked in student affairs. Hazing with sexual overtones happened on our campus, albeit in a fraternity. They made the pledges strip and tape balloons to themselves while the brothers threw darts at them. Not an urban legend. This happened and the chapter was kicked off campus. The pledge who turned them in had to…

At the college where I worked, all hazing, even stuff "not that bad," was considered bad because once you open the door to any kind of hazing, you are opening the door to abuse.

Um, yes, I'm aware it was 30 years ago. And I'm completely confident that if naked pics of a contemporary winner surfaced, the powers that be would strip that woman of her title.

I used to work in student affairs at a university. Homoeroticism is a favored hazing tactic in frats and sororities. It is f-ed up

As others have pointed out, Solo plays for the Seattle Reign. The Women Sounders are actually the lower level, semi-pro team in town. But glad you are covering this. It's disgusting that women's soccer continues to promote her as the face of the sport.

Every time this story comes up here, I'm amazed at the number of commenters who feel Sherry Shepherd is not responsible for this child. She consented to the surrogacy; she is responsible.

I didn't think you were self-absorbed! No worries.

You are a good writer. Maybe you should write more about this, for yourself or others? I'm a writer, so my mind always goes there...

I just finally watched the clip, and while I haven't watched the whole series, I have to say I feel incredibly sad for her. She seems like a lovely young woman, but aside from her financial issues, seems to have been drawn to porn out of insecurity. She does not seem to be in control, but rather like she trying her…

I really appreciate you sharing your experience here. There are so many layers to the issue. The human body is beautiful and to be celebrated, but in the context of rape culture, which exists everywhere, and capitalism that turns the body into a commodity, it gets all twisted. I've had a couple women in my extended…

Thank you for this very articulate and needed comment here. I think I'm older than the average Jezebel reader, and I find myself bewildered by what is defined as feminism by the majority here. I'm happy to know somebody else has heard of Andrea Dworkin. I would like to see sex work decriminalized, but I will never…

I would have been fine with never, ever knowing this.

I agree. That takes years of practice.

So you think three grown men are justified in jumping on top of a 70 pound teenage girl for this horrendous rule breaking? You are an idiot. I've been a teacher of high school students. You don't deal with them like this. The administrator and the rent-a-cops have now created a much bigger problem on this campus with…

A man who knocks a woman out cold and then stands there showing no surprise at his own actions has abused her before. Nobody is buying the shit you are peddling.

I would like to see all of us make more of an effort to show respect for one another through dress...but air travel is all about comfort. If I'm flying 20+ hours to Asia, I'm wearing a track suit if I please. I don't care what others wear on a long flight; I'm just happy if they hold their farts in.

A tub in the middle of the room doesn't seem like good feng shui