How is rape simulation between consenting adults any different than BDSM between consenting adults?

You clearly have trouble distinguishing between fantasy and reality. You don’t have to understand everyone’s kinks. I don’t understand a lot of kinks either but I don’t judge because what the fuck do I care what people do for jollies, as long as it’s all among consenting adults?

Some women are into that. Some women are into that and are also feminists.

I didn’t read that as #notallmen, I though the comment was addressed at nycyclist his/herself, that being a survivor shouldn’t mean you won’t ever love and trust anyone again and that there are good people out there too.

So do you also think that if a woman is into rape fantasies, it’s because deep down she actually wants to be raped for real? She’s, as you say, telling you who they are? Or does your sex negative judginess only apply to men?

Please tell me you dumped the fucker.

I agree it’s both power and sex. If a guy tapes primarily because he’s horny and an opportunity presents itself he’s putting his desire above her consent and getting what he wants because he can, he’s physically more powerful and can take what he wants, whether he wants to get off or to force someone to submit, it’s a…

I want to know why it still exists, especially Lauren Rodrigue’s posts. It started off as a kind of anti-traditional wedding wedding site and now it’s just as bad as The Knot and every other bridezilla nightmare dream wedding bullshit website. Off with its head!

Not upper middle class Brits. Weight is a class thing over there too and in the circles that Bridget moves in, she was probably a little heavier than the norm. Though part of it is also about the fact that she thinks she's fat even though she really isn't, which is clear in the fact that no one else even noticed her…

I actually hate romcoms and his is one of the few that I’ll defend because it’s smart and funny, along with About a Boy. And I’m with you that the stories are getting twisted into something they're not. Personally I think the revisionist PC twisting of the story into something it isn’t just beyond ridiculous.…

Disgusted and creeped out by what? A romcom that for once is actually smart and funny?

I know we’re all generally against reboots, but maybe in this case it wouldn’t be such a bad idea.

Also very accurate.

Crotch bread is almost as good as crotch fruit, which is what a friend of mine (and now me too) calls children.

I’m Latin American so don’t come at me with your white man’s burden bullshit. My own region is guilty of some pretty horrific shit when it comes to women and LGBT people and yes, we are backwards in many respects when it comes to that and yes, I blame the weight of region and tradition for most of it. And yes, there…

Interesting. And yeah, not really surprising that they’d have that much turnover. I sort of agree with the “too earnest” thing. But I think that it applies to a lot of writers at jezebel. They try to bury the earnestness under snark but it’s right there.

I’m more on the policy end of things not out in the field but thanks.

I have mixed feelings about Lindy West but had no idea she was fired. Why?

Chill. It’s the truth. And before you start accusing me of being a privileged Westerner with no clue, I say this as a Latin American who’s lived both there and in a few other countries around the world so I know what it’s like to come from a region where religion and traditions still hold a lot of weight, and…

The regional group as in Africa and the positions it defends as a regional group within the UN.