It’s not that she has the ground rules, it’s why she had them that I think is fucked up. She has baggage from sleeping with selfish jerks. So rather than do the obvious - stop dating jerks who don’t care about her pleasure and deal with her baggage - she made it all about the blow jobs when it’s about much more than…

Seriously?

UPDATE: Since this interview was conducted, Synthia China Blast has been transferred to Mid-State Correctional Facility, a men’s facility near Utica. She is now on a long-term IPC wing, and is able to spend the vast majority of each day out of her cell and around other prisoners. Blast finally has access to…

Keep digging.

What the fuck is wrong with you?

I saw a dude on the subway in an “inmate Jared fogel” costume. He really looked like him too.

Did yoko eat your kitten or something?

I am truly, deeply sorry you went through that. If you see my other comments, I also qualified my response to say that my opinion absolutely does not apply to those who refuse to engage in sex acts because of past trauma. Obviously.

Honestly, I’ll take the dry spell. Bad lovers don’t give you orgasms and they won’t fulfil any need for human affection either and I can give myself amazing orgasms so I’ll pass on the selfish jerks. But I’m a weirdo who has no problem being by myself for long periods of time rather than put up with someone I’m with…

Ok, but even if women “need” it more my point is people who won’t reciprocate oral sex are selfish jerks who don’t deserve to get laid. (With exceptions for people who won’t do it because of past trauma, of course).

I’m rolling my eyes at the claims of innocence. Everyone in jail claims to be innocent and that they were falsely convicted. I’m not buying the “scared of retaliation from gang members” story either. BUT THAT DOESN’T MATTER. Prisons are full of objectively awful men and women who have done awful things and yes, it’s…

Oh yeah, I said in another comment (I think, unless I forgot) that it’s different if there’s any kind of trauma attached to a sex act. But for the trauma-free, oral sex seems like a pretty basic component of sex to me, and one where I am pretty absolutist (again, only speaking for myself). I’ve also never slept with a…

Yes but you’re acting (and the blog post author is too) like these 2 stories are representative of every guy who refuses to go down on women and every woman who refuses to go down on guys.

Absolutely. What part of my comment told you I was siding with the accused rapist?

It doesn’t matter. No one “needs” oral sex. And just because men can get off from penetration more easily than women doesn’t mean that there aren’t men out there who love a good blow job. You could also argue that men don’t have to go down on women because they can finger them to orgasm too so like I said my it’s not…

I don’t think she wants the pomp, I think she wants her partner to say she’s the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with. And it’s doesn’t seem unreasonable - he’s already stuck with her through cancer, and she moved to the middle of nowhere for his career. Some people need a formal commitment and that’s…

He sounds like an insufferable little shit, and a terrible lover. But I don’t like the tone of the article that seems to imply that it’s ok if women refuse to give blow jobs but that men who don’t eat pussy are pussies. Honestly, both men and women need too get over their squeamishness about oral sex and I will side…

No, she's not responsible. But it certainly hurts the credibility of her case.

Yeah that’s what I’m saying, I’m reserving judgment. Also, I just realised my comment might be interpreted the wrong way: when I mentioned the DNA from 2 other men, I wasn’t saying that to imply she had multiple partners and therefore couldn't have been raped, but rather that it might have been someone else who raped…

I agree, it might not be her but her mom is looking shady as fuck in all this, and add to that the fact that her lawyer resigned... I almost hope this is a lie/cash grab because if she did get raped and her mom basically torpedoed her case, it would almost make it worse.