Barillophobia to the tune of Rihanna's Disturbia. PLEASE, DWV!

Number one, "it actually effects" every person — if you are the friend or parent of a person prevented from marrying the person they love for some bullshit law then your heart is heavy also. Number two, allies are important because they have the privilege to champion causes because they're not busy worrying about…

Ah, I understand where you're coming from. I understand the author's sentiment and what they're trying to communicate here, but I agree that we should work to find a less dismissive-sounding way of communicating that idea.

Absolutely, you just need to let me eat a slice every two or three months to make sure I haven't spontaneously started liking it :)

Huzzah for the voice of reason! I agree on mayo (and ask places to hold ketchup all the time).

It's one of the best things to dislike because I can always find a home for it. If you say "does anyone want my onions" you might not get a response, but "anyone want this avocado?" gets a quick reply.

Maybe if it's used hyperbolically, but in this case the man has just confessed to rape.

Right?! Keep liking what you like or don't — hell, ask politely if you can be accommodated — just don't expect the world to spin backwards because you don't like olives or whatever.

Yeah, everyone around me loves it so much that about once every two or three months I leave it on whatever I'm eating just to make sure. I'm just not a fan. It's not bad, per se (I really can't think of a vegetable that I flat-out won't eat) but the texture and fattiness along with a slightly grassy note just…

Taking the onion off a burger or sandwich is one thing but would you ask a place to give you soup or curry "without the onions?" There's reasonable and unreasonable. There's nothing wrong with having likes and dislikes — it's the expectation that those should be accommodated at all times that becomes problematic. …

Oh god, that is the absolute worst. Especially in less-developed and poorer areas I think it comes off as so self-obsessed. For most of the world it's a privilege to have any choice at all in what one is eating, and if you're accommodating guests and offering them food (even if you're paid to do so!) and the guest…

Pho is liquid gold. In the summer months I switch over to bun, which is almost as delicious.

Yes. This is the real issue. Nobody cares what another person's likes or dislikes are until they make a big deal about it by expecting to be accommodated when eating out. It's nice when a restaurant can accommodate a special menu, but should never be expected.

Oh god, and when they phrase it like that you know that it's a whooooooole heap of different problems all mixed together.

One of my best friends is a first-generation immigrant who works in a restaurant serving her home country's cuisine. She has mentioned to me on many occasions that she finds Americans to be overly picky about food and that even adults ask to have things prepared without vital ingredients in them or in ways that…

100% same. Sometimes the rap outro on Q.U.E.E.N. stops me dead because I'm so struck by how amazing she is. So much respect for this amazing woman.

No — but like all demographics, we're being polarized by the social and media climate of the US, and that means that you see more "bad" (in this sense, un/anti-feminist) men.

Thank you! I'm realizing that "the alumnae objections overruled" means "they would've pulled funding and we can't have that!"

Somehow I'm not surprised that Hannah Rosin doesn't grasp the basics of intersectionality.

While I understand what you're referring to about historically black (and other minority) fraternities/sororities, I'd point out that by their charter those are not exclusively black/minority and they do accept white members. At least I know Alpha Phi Alpha does, and they're pretty huge.