I would look for a medical cause first, if he’s open to that suggestion. If not, then I would, personally, consider it a dealbreaker. I listen to Dan Savage a lot, and his podcast and advice columns are filled with people who are in relationships where their sex drives are mismatched, and like another poster said,…

All you need to live alone: confidence, a bit of a sense of adventure, a realization that no matter how fucked everything seems nothing is actually fucked, self-forgiveness, enough money for rent and ramen, and a firm understanding that the vertigo you’re feeling is because you’re on an upward trajectory. You’ll be…

I’m trying not to stab my husband. He’s in the middle of a mid life crisis, wants to quit his job to become a musician, and says I’m too materialistic for pointing out that we have a mortgage, 3 kids who need braces, a dying car that needs to be replaced soon, and a mountain of student loan debt from when he went back…

I usually make potato/cheese/bacon, potato/cheese/sausage, cottage cheese/chive, kapusta (yuck) and mushroom pierogi, but I was thinking about new recipes for my pierogifest this winter, and spanakapierogi sounded sooo good. I also want to make a potato/cheese curd pierogi that you pour brown gravy over, so you can…

I feel like I must have clicked on the “Large Print” version of Gawker.

I posted this a few weeks ago, but you should try making some “slutty brownies” if things get much worse. Or, you know, if things just get.

Ohio, man. Ohio is clearly okay with some weird shit.

Yes there are. I’m not a model type, but definitely have confidence in myself and can/will talk to anyone. I have turned down my fair share of hot/attractive guys for this reason. This idea you have that hot guys only talk to or consider model types seems more self-damning than anything. And it’s most definitely not…

I can only speak for myself, but my partner and I ditch each other to hang out with other people ALL THE TIME. We hang out with people together, too, but my point is that you don’t lose anything by asking. If they want their alone-couplesies time, they’ll say no, and if they’re not total jerks they’ll suggest another…

Yes. Let them know you appreciate their concerns but this is your decision. You two are paying the mortgage, not them. There is no way to tap dance around this to spare their feelings. They aren’t taking yours in to concern by introducing other homes priced above your comfort zone. They aren’t offering to pay the…

Is he open to seeing a counsellor of some sort about this, either on his own or with you? Or a doctor? If he’s got an unusually low libido, there could be a physical cause that could be ameliorated with diet / supplements / medication / who knows, or a psychological cause that could be improved with therapy. If you…

I’ve been getting jeans at thrift stores lately. They tend to have a wide variety of styles from tons of different stores, and I guess enough get donated that most of the jeans I see don’t seem like they’ve been worn a lot. Plus if the thighs get holes in them in a few months, you won’t feel as bad because they're…

Have you met anyone else in the organization who you might be able to just ask? I don’t think it would come across as asking how to dress yourself. It’s demonstrating that you’re thoughtful and aware of the necessity of balancing your clients’ needs and the organization’s workplace culture.

I believe you have good reason to shout:

I fucked a guy who had a male roommate who I’m almost certain wasn’t just a roommate. I’ve seen 20 something guy houses and this seemed too domestic. Anyway, he fucked me six ways from Sunday. I went back one more time, then I left the country. This dude’s sex game was pure magic.

OH GOD this is so horrifically familiar. Only in my case, the guy told me that he lived apart from his baby mother (he didn’t) and one day she went through his text messages and started messaging me. Yeah.

Where on your body are you planning on getting it? It’s honestly not all that terrible, but everyone’s pain threshold is different! I usually like to listen to music during sessions so I completely zone out (got through my ribs just fine doing this) Talk to someone, just be distracted so you’re not focused on the…

It is a sucky answer, but it depends on your pain tolerance. I have NO pain tolerance and my hip tattoo involved a lot of high-pitched dolphin noises. My friend feels no pain and got a tattoo on wrist with no wincing at all.

Go into that black hole of a store with a plan, or you’re coming out with cookie scented candles, a salad spinner, and NO TOWELS.

Spoken from experience.

First week back to school. It went okay. I dyed my hair almost completely magenta before I started back to work. One of the little sixth grade boys came up to me after recess and tells me, “Ms Deerlady, I like the way your hair looks when you stand in Ms R’s doorway to get (students). The light reflecting off your…