I’ve never seen a writer blogger here get ratio’d so badly on her own post.

No, but hand-waving away cruel comments about weight should be factored into the “pretty fucking amazing.” Equation works out like Pretty fucking awesome - cruel comments about weight = awesome in some specific areas and needs to own privilege (or maybe is now according to other comments, yay), not = everything he…

Hey as a bi guy, i don’t care about making it public at all, but if i had an aditional reason to do it, like promoting a product of mine, a new endeavor or something like that, then i wouldn’t have a problem with “coming out” to the general public. So it’s all a matter of perspective.

“Women with husbands (who are also not straight) are an underrepresented segment of the population.”

Not really. Whatever you intended to do, you ended up snarking on women being bi while married to men. Also, it’s clear that she used the platform of advertising to make her sexuality more publicly known, not the other way around. The interview was about Kinrgy and would have happened without her anecdote about coming…

What’s funny is that bisexual women with husbands ARE a marginal(ized), underrepresented part of the population. As are bisexual women with female partners. But the few media representations we get of bi women tend to be women making out with women for the male gaze. And we know that bi women have higher rates of…

Nah, I can’t leave this alone — as someone who’s also bi and married to a straight man (but has never come out, except to my spouse), I can tell you that it’s not the fear of my Mormon relatives’ response that keeps me in the closet. They’re bigots and I know it and it is what it is. It’s people like you, who are…

Hough’s from a Mormon background, and the last time I was at a Mormon family reunion three separate family members felt it necessary to — out of nowhere — grouse about “why do bi people in straight relationships find it “necessary” to “rub it in people’s faces” or “remind others that they’re not straight” (etc). They…

All visibility is good visibility. All visibility makes it easier for the next person to come out. Policing people’s motives is inherently problematic. Please, pretty please, I beg from a place of no snark at all, please, evaluate whether snarking at this is a good thing.

A heternormative relationship is absolutely not an automatic safe space when you are not hetero. See Kender Again’s reference below if you need one.

Joan is bi and married to a man, which makes it all the more befuddling. I think it’s maybe devaluing the experience of person in the interview because she is “thin, blonde, and famous”? Or maybe Joan is having a stroke, unclear.

Are you upset she said she wasn’t straight within a heteronormative relationship? That she’s not queer enough?

I can’t parse the tone of this article at all. Are we making fun of how ~silly~ it is for queer women in relationships with men to come out as queer? Even though that’s actually a fairly important discussion? Especially because bisexual women are more likely to suffer abuse*, and bisexual people generally struggle…

Exactly. I’m not a fan of Julianne Hough, but what she’s talking about rang true for me as a bi woman in a committed relationship with a man. The snarkiness of the article made me feel like shit and reminded me why I never tell people in my life (besides my boyfriend) that I’m bi.

Women with husbands are a marginal, underrepresented segment of the population. Thankfully, former competition show dancer and frequent podcast guest Julianne Hough has broken down our community’s barriers

Stairs.

It really doesn’t. I’ve had my car for a year and a half now and it gives me both an audio and visual cue to check the backseat everytime the back door has been opened when I shut of the car. I still look in the backseat every time. And, my kids are 9 and 10 so even if I forgot them, they could simply open the door…

I remember one morning with my youngest I was so damn tired. Just exhausted. He was about 6 months old. Maybe a little older? I was on autopilot and I was just driving to work. I was about a block away from the office and he made a cooing noise - a gurgle or something - after having been super quiet the whole way to…

I’ve been driving a rental for the past week while my car is in the shop and the only thing Hertz had was a full size GMC pickup truck. (Which is fun to drive, esp. not having to pay for gas for long.) It makes loud noises about half the times I turn it off, always when leaving it in hot sun, and flashes a message on…

Thanks for your reporting. I used to admire Mayer and am mystified as to why she chose to die on this hackish hill.