I read Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari recently and this was basically its thesis.

It’s really not the worst thing...and I say this as a married mom for 25 years- I would KILL to be alone! I LOVED being single and living alone in a clean house where all my shot was where I left it.

A friend of mine sacrificed all of her goals to be with her husband (who is no longer with us- suicide) and I thought that might be what was going on, but she only told the truth after his death. He told her she couldn’t pursue a career interest because he couldn’t handle her being away for months at a time, for…

I don’t get why people think it is bad to be alone. I actually WANT to be alone. I was never into relationships, it just isn’t who I am. I am very introverted and I have been my entire life, so I like my solitude (In fact not being alone REALLY gets to me. I don’t think I have been any more than 50-100m from someone…

I’m married with kids, and honestly, I still love traveling alone. Nothing like that feeling of heading into a new experience and knowing it’s all yours.

This right here is it. You have to be comfortable with yourself. Whether we believe it or not, we give off vibes and nothing stinks worse then loneliness, self pity, desperation or depression. It’s like people can sense it.

Yup - just wanted to comment my parents didn’t meet and marry till 38-39, and then had me!

I remember running home after being out doing errands all day to check to see if my answering machine had a flashing light. Ohh.. the exhilaration of it all!!

What does the stupid plastic party hat she’s wearing in that instagram pic say?

What I’m saying here is technology has made communication easier, yes, but has also made real intimacy trickier. Finding love is harder now I think.

Yeah, I live in New York and I’ve completely given up on online dating because it’s just used like a video game. It’s reduced people to superficial attributes and when there is literally too much choice, people simply get overwhelmed and can’t make a choice. I’ve had so many great back and forth conversations on…

ALL PEOPLE are selfish. Some are better at admitting it, some act on it more, but really it’s everyone. And I don’t mean it in the Ayn Rand way. But if you aren’t happy w your life and self, you can’t be good for friends, family, or partners.

It’s definitely true that the dynamic is different. I was fairly shy and had trouble approaching people, especially in bars, which made it tough to connect with anyone. I had kind of the opposite problem in that I was good-looking but socially awkward so I often killed potential interest before it had a chance to…

I’d give you all my stars for the year if I could. Online you are making decisions about people in seconds, and it’s totally removed from what kind of person they are. How do they communicate, laugh, make you FEEL? Who knows, they’re gone in a swipe. Like you I never had any trouble getting dates/girlfriends…

I am moments away from turning 40 and you described me. About 8 years ago I just stopped “looking” and started just doing things I wanted to do some times with friends some times alone. And it hasn’t been the end of my world and I enjoy traveling alone (which mostly people don’t get and think I am faking) maybe it…

Not to trivialize the discussion, but I tend to think the same thing about music, and photos, and most everything else we now interact with electronically.

Standards and processes have completely reversed. It’s so much easier to find people and get dates now than it was back then. But I think that simplicity has made real connections more difficult, because there’s much less incentive to invest time and emotion in a potential relationship when you’ve got 50 other matches…

Same age group, and I agree; analog dating was so much easier. Texting and social networking create a drug-like effect. The highs are higher, and the lows are lower. My 20-something niece and nephew are struggling, and I hate to see it.

This is good.

I am 60 years old. In case it helps, I’m going to tell you what I know.