A lot of people think you need to get a lawyer and sue, but actually making an EEOC complaint is really easy, and they will investigate for you: https://www.eeoc.gov/employees/howt… I have done it, and although nothing came of it, I at least felt a little less helpless. And it sounds like you have witnesses, which I…

That's terrible - one can do everything "right" and according to the unspoken rules and still suffer for it. I'm really sorry.

But women have it easier amirite?!

Have you thought about taking some sort of action? That’s the kind of casual sexism that happens way too often but doesn’t get talked about or dealt with.

Holy shit. FUCK that guy.

psssst I think it’s BoA

I mean I’d say that’s unbelievable but sadly it is not. It’s a beautiful example of a woman being punished for a man’s thoughts.

Woah woah woah, is this all at the same company? You wore Banana Republic and Theory and were blocked from a promotion because those clothes were too sexy? Pants suits are too sexy?

This is where you do all that plus find a good lawyer for the civil suit that will bankrupt that asshole. And the company. Which I would like to avoid because one guy’s Sad Trombone Boner apparently rules all the fucking policy/promotion decisions so if you happen to mention its name we’re good.

Oh man I totally get that, my boyfriend lives abroad and we have a six hour time difference, which does NOT help at all with any aspect of this!

Thank you! I am aware of the cycle and working to try to break it before he reaches his breaking point. We usually can talk and clear the air well afterwards but he has been out of state for work and I hate that he isn't here, which is making me perpetuate it more at the moment. Just gotta get through this…

Hang in there! I really do feel like things are getting better now that I can recognize that I’m doing it and let him know that I’m acting like a monster but it’s not anything in particular that he did or said. I’m sure it’s exhausting to be on the other end of all of this sometimes, so I try to be really appreciative…

Yesssss and then I feel like the worst person for causing that fight! Sometimes I think it’s because I’m having anxiety about the dynamics of the relationship, so I pursue this shitty conversation knowing that either I’ll be proven right that he doesn’t love me “enough” or we’ll make up and he’ll be really sweet and…

Ok, you are really me. I just did this yesterday. I KNEW I would start a conversation that lead to a fight and I still did it anyway. We haven't talked all day today, which not talking is the exact reason I started a fight. So now I am paying with the exact thing I wanted to avoid because I reacted poorly. I know the…

Same over here. I cringed a little when I saw the bit about men feeling like you didn’t need them enough. Been there more than a few times.

Hey, the true crazies out there are the ones that say they are perfectly sane. You just like stirring the pot past a boil and then are surprised when it makes a mess.

ROBOT ROLL CALL!

I hear ya. The old saying you can't really control the events that happen to you but you can control how you react to those events is VERY true. It helped me be less of a jerk as I mellowed with age.

Are you me?? I’ve been trying to sum up what I am doing to current BF and you just did it perfectly. I keep pushing and I know I am being unreasonable and cannot hop that crazy train. And this is after he was my solid rock/support through my divorce. I am thinking I might just need to stick to my rescue dogs.

Yes! My roommate/platonic life partner is always telling me “you know you set people up to fail, right?” and it’s like...yes but I literally can’t stop myself.