There is literally nothing more irritating than a straight guy making mild attempts to “plant threesome ideas” in your head. It’s never mild, it’s always obvious, and it’s rarely appreciated. And (rant alert) as a fellow *women’s college* grad (it’s not an all-girls school; we’re adults, thank you very much) that…

Yes, I know, that’s what I was referring to. As opposed to the single guys. The grammar there was a little garbled, my mistake. It sounds like your wife just basically wasn’t into swinging. Not everything people like to talk about and fantasize about works for them in real life.

We’ve only had that happen once—we were at a private party and my partner started playing with a girl whose boyfriend I didn’t find attractive. In a situation like that, where there are 20 naked people in a room, its normally not a big deal if a specific couple doesn’t want to full swap—just go join another scene, you…

I was seriously so proud of him. Like it was arousing to watch, but I was also so intellectually turned on that he would be so open-minded and give it a shot and then be totally chill and actively kind to the guy about it afterwards. No more than anyone should do, but I was still pleasantly surprised. Now I tell him…

Hahah fair enough. Live and learn, I guess!

It’s an issue, I suppose. I think it helps that we’re young (late 20s is young for swinging) and only really meeting up with couples our own age. At that point, most people tend to be dating or married to someone who is about on their level in terms of attractiveness. Of course we get offers all the time from old men…

Hahah well yeah that’s creepy. It’s definitely helpful to have discussed things like that in advance so you know what you’re getting into.

See, I find that really interesting, mainly because most men would never consider a MFM/MMF (yes, they’re different) threesome. When you say threesome to most straight guys, he thinks of two women, period, and that’s the issue/encounter I was describing. Single dudes are super easy to find, you have to beat them off…

I admit the “ouch, ouch, you’re on my hair” factor is somewhat magnified.

I’m sorry for you that all the swingers you’ve met have been like that. None of the ones we’ve met have been like that, nor are we like that—watching my boyfriend get a BJ from a (young, attractive, bi, polyamorous) guy (and his gorgeous bi non-primary partner) for the first time was one of the coolest sexual…

I mean, I guess? If you’re looking into swinging, or a threesome with another man, presumably you’re actively seeking that part. As to the latter part of your comment, I didn’t mean they’d think it was gay so much as some men have trouble maintaining an erection in a group scene, especially around a man who might be…

It’s definitely an issue—my partner and I have an ongoing thing about how much more attractive the wives tend to be than the husbands, and he is definitely much less picky than I am. We’re lucky in that we’re in our 20s and in NYC and conventionally very attractive, so we have a lot of available options, and we can…

I spent years wasting time trying to organize threesomes, until my current partner and I started sleeping with other couples. Now threesomes? Forget it. So much drama, so much planning, so much handholding, and someone always feels annoyed or left out. As long as you’re the kind of dude who isn’t freaked out by being…

Smitten Kitten is like Babeland & Good Vibrations—it’s very progressive, upscale, meant to be female-friendly, and very focused on education. I have never seen videos of the kind you’re thinking prominently displayed in one of those stores, and I actually think having staff from stores like those speak to teenagers is…

Good god, am I ever excited to see this name on Jezebel.

No, of course not. As proven by Carey Mulligan, there’s no reason at all that they have to look like one of the dozens of extremely talented Hispanic actresses in Hollywood (located in a state with a gigantic Hispanic population) who did not get cast in that role. Good logic! Let’s not cast minority actresses in…

Well...dragons?

WAIT, CAREY MULLIGAN WAS SUPPPOSED TO BE HISPANIC??

If they can make Clare have a weepy conversation with a raccoon, I’m pretty sure they can construct this with their eyes closed from a bunch of workout-obsessed bros who love to hug it out and have to produce dialogue about love multiple times a day.

Everything about an all-gay Bachelor would be 1000 times better.