I recommend this to EVERYONE. What a book.

Nah he has a very hot Brazilian model girlfriend who for some reason follows me on Instagram and so now I follow her. She’s been hiding her left hand lately so I feel like they might be engaged, which I would goddamn insist on if my boyfriend was going to be doing a show about proposals.  https://www.instagram.com/emel…

Why Don’t They Just Talk To Each Other is by far the most frustrating narrative trope in existence. Like really, you’re going to fly to a Shenzen JAIL instead of, you know, calling your mother?

This is exactly the criticism movies like these NEED. If women and minorities never stood up and complained about their portrayal in movies, no progress would ever get made, and there’s precious little enough already. Thank you for sharing a valuable and informed perspective.

THANK YOU I have been looking at side by sides all day. The entire bridge of her nose has flattened and the outside of her nostril looks much more rounded and actually thicker. On the other hand, there are also literally no photos of her from this angle anywhere else so it’s hard to say. STILL though—in shots that are…

I had a similarly privileged experience in that same era, with the live-in nanny and both parents working, and while I recognize that what my parents did isn’t instructive directly to anyone who doesn’t have that kind of money, I do try to be encouraging about the fact that you can be very present in your kids’ lives…

I grew up with SO many moms like these—lots of former lawyer and bankers and high-powered executives who married men in their fields and decided to stay home so their husband’s careers could get even bigger. I babysat for a former J.P. Morgan managing director/Harvard MBA who I can’t even describe as raising her…

One of my most vivid lessons from undergrad was a class I took at Hampshire College, which has no grades. As a Mount Holyoke student, I had to have one for my transcript, and this professor required 5-College students to write a short essay explaining what grade they thought they deserved. I thought carefully about…

I’ve had family out in Tucson since the early ‘70s (first grandparents and aunts and uncles, and now my parents too) and I have an ongoing affection for the place, but it’s entirely weird to me that my friends now want to make trips out to stay with us during the gem show when I used to get teased all the time for…

Breakneck Ridge is by far one of the most diverse trail populations I’ve ever seen, in large part because it’s accessible without a car, making it a big draw for city folk of all kinds. It’s one of the busiest hiking trails in the country, and it’s also completely overloaded the local fire departments, which sometimes…

I think what I reacted to most was not the breastfeeding (which was awesome, and clearly not a gimmick, but also kind of a gimmick) but how emotional she got at the end. Imagine a world where a woman tearing up because she is upset about something isn’t taken as a sign of instability or being “too emotional” but…

Our troop suffered from an oversupply of corporate parents, who would take the forms into their offices. One girl’s father was the managing partner at one of NYC’s biggest white-shoe law firms and everybody in the building tried to suck up to him by buying a noticeable number of boxes, and she ended up winning…

I enjoy this even more having finally finished the endless New Yorker article where he gleefully cops to making his first round of talk-show anecdotes all cute-animal stories. Now I’m just excited to see if this next round is all cute-kid stories.

I think it’s important to air things like this to disabuse Americans of the assumption that anyone with an English accent is automatically smarter than they are.

Like, as a female human in the world who dates men, I understand the physicality she is implying. I understand what it looks and feels like for a dude to pull himself back from the brink, and that he would obviously prefer to be stopped early on than later, and is making a practical request. But that is so much about…

“Also, one thing I always try to have is a moment of explicit consent. Like a “stop me now, babe!” “No, I want this!” and it’s the smallest thing in the world to work that in.”

I’ve thought about this as well regarding my own friends, and I still don’t have an answer, which feels weird considering the closest I’ve ever come to being raped was by a mutual friend who I met at a party. I told the friend who’d thrown the party (it was a good friend and her bf, and the party was at their…

Yeah, it does bother me. Not in the way that, you know, women dying of intimate partner violence bothers me, but it’s pretty frustrating to try to enjoy time with your friends only to look up midsentence from your plate and find everyone’s eyes drawn to the screen. It’s not really a good compromise if you’re not…

My partner and I are talking about my pipe-dream financial plan to (when we’re ready) try doing a year of living on one salary, and saving 100% of the rest, but I don’t want to let my own retirement savings accounts lapse. How do they account for that—do you know? Is this just from take-home pay rather than gross…

Me too. My dad showed it to me when I was in middle school, I think, and it was such a part of the fabric of our conversation for a long time. When I was first learning to parallel park, a gentle “It’s okay, we can walk to the curb from here” was enough to make me laugh instead of cry. And all through my terrible…