The New York Times had a great story on this a few years ago. The researchers call it "sliding not deciding" and it's a huge indicator of divorce.

I dated a guy who had one of those!

"It's worth noting that a third of 18- to 24-year-olds thought people should wait to move in together until marriage, but I can only assume that's either because things are going so swell living with their parents, or they have devised a very clever way as a demographic to let you know they will never want to move in…

I don't know that I'd call a period spanning 35 years a "sharp" decrease, but it's of course ridiculous on its face that there was any decrease at all.

I mean, it's not a lie? That was kind of my point. But to each their own!

HE JUST WANTS TO HEAR YOU SAY THAT IT'S BIG. My god. Men are so simple sometimes. My ethical line on this issue is as follows: I will not lie about size *comparatively.* I do not say, "you have the biggest cock I've ever seen!" if that isn't true. But I will happily say "Ohh, god, you feel so big!" when they are…

I both love and hate that feeling <3

Oh I was HOPING for a post on this. Because really, isn't it just beautiful that a philanderer who views lying to your partner as an essential and caring way to express love in a relationship completely fails to connect that to the fact that he has been married THREE TIMES?

It's a media thing. A bit jargony, but totally normal if you work in publishing.

I have a number of friends who've both been and become doulas, and the one thing that really sticks out to me as an outside observer is just that they're the cool head in the room. They're a patient advocate, basically. In situations where husbands are becoming hysterical, mothers are getting overbearing, and doctors…

I mean, in a professional sense, I have taken this advice to a certain point. I am the person who knows how all of our analytics systems work, even though it is not strictly my job, and I often pull numbers for her when she needs them for meetings or presentations. I taught myself Photoshop so I can do a quick graphic…

"It took me way to long to realize that volunteering to do the admin work doesn't make you look like a can-do management candidate - it makes people think of you as the office secretary."

That's a very interesting point that you raise. But while anecdotes are not data, I have to say that in my experience I disagree.

Which brings me back to the best piece of work advice my mother ever gave me, when I mentioned I was bringing cookies into the office.

Sure, I understand that. Which is partly why I disagree with the charter school model in a lot of ways—the hedge funders pouring millions into these elementary schools aren't necessarily funding the whole process. I know it's not in and of itself a solution to anything, but giving kids models of adult lives that don't…

The charter school rhetoric around college is adorable, if only in the sense that it is totally abstract. I have a few friends from college who teach in one charter school, and they've themed their classroom around our school, visually and with lots of activities so their "scholars" will achieve higher education.

Haha I am at that awkward place where I have been into kink far too long to use shitty novelty store products, but am not nearly good enough with rope to justify the investment in Erin's. Still, whenever that feels right, that is where I shall go.

Here is a truth about people:

This should be starred and upvoted and etc., etc.

Have been having this fight with the guy I'm seeing, who insists over and over that I'm not really okay with his pot habit, because I'm worried he's not motivated. I continue to insist that's not the reason I'm annoyed by his pot habit, but he won't listen, so now I need to tell the internet. Here's the deal: