And a certain name to “jagoff”? :)

Agreed. Ive had relationships with women who have kids and its fine. I feel like I know where everyone fits. And I think the stigma of single dad is far outweighed by the stigma of special needs child. Which I get.

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My husband took a theater class in college. He hated it, but it made him really great at talking to strangers and being comfortable with small talk (at least compared to me - I freeze in social functions and prefer my couch to most people). I think there are some things, that when they don’t come naturally or you…

As a 35 year old woman recently single it’s more like... you have a job? You don’t live with your mom? Cool, let’s hook up!

It’s difficult territory to navigate sometimes. I personally lost my own dad in some ways pretty young with him dying when I barely started high school. I never had an adult relationship with my dad so sometimes I’m not really sure if it’s normal for my guy to help his adult daughter in some ways that I can only dream…

“under promise and over deliver”. (I don’t photograph well, either)

I have a sense of style. I am conscious of how I dress. I am 50lbs heavier than I want to be so there;s that. Some guys can work that but I can’t seem to. I am dieting and sporadically working out but its slow going.

As a woman dating a never married dad, women often don’t want that competition for attention.

One would think but thats not been my experience. Plus I am a father to a special needs kid which seems to a huge deal breaker in our 40's.

I dunno...I swear I’m not trying to be all arrogant, but I’m cute. And probably about 60 percent of the boyfriends I had before I got married in my late 30s were average to very odd looking. But they always had Something. Usually an awesome sense of humor and a great personality. One was just amazing in bed. But they…

As a woman dating a never married dad, women often don’t want that competition for attention. Sometimes the mom can bring her own burden/drama. Some women don’t want you spending time on a kid that isn’t theirs. Some just don’t like kids and therefore don’t want their bf to have them.

They don’t make lighting good enough.

Why don’t you like pickles, you monster?

By the time you hit 30, being steadily employed and interesting (even better: funny) makes you a pretty damn good catch. Anyone that doesn’t see that? Fuck em. You’re a confident badass and don’t need their shit.

I once was young and fairly hot (not Miss America, but maybe 2nd runner up...) and I met a guy who was a friend of my sometimes boyfriend. He was short, chubby, and not good looking (okay, borderline ugly.) He hit on me...I was kind and pointed out Boyfriend. Boyfriend broke up and Mr. Chubby let me cry on his…

“and opting for humor over bitterness” WOW, that is a great and useful suggestion right there. I think when you feel less than it is hard to do some things (though hygiene, a good diet and a basic manner of dress are hopefully not optional afterthoughts) but even in a non-dating realm we have all run into someone who…

I don’t photograph well. I obviously pick the best pictures I can find but I don’t edit them. And when I show up for the date, I’m met with pleasant suprise and the remark that I’m better looking in person. Which is true and it’s really nice when the reaction is not poorly-masked disappointment.