Yeah, trans guy here. I’m guessing “fully functional” is not the same as “as if he was born with it”. It sounds like a standard phalloplasty. Maybe being born a man, they may be able to take advantage of other bodily infrastructure to make it more functional than on an FTM. However, there would be some compromises I…

I always wondered why the L Word couldn’t find any Latinas in LA to play Latinas in the show. Strangely, they hired actresses Persian and East Indian decent to do the job. I mean, don’t get me wrong. #TeamCarmen. But the casting was a head scratcher.

At best it is inaccurate, at worst it’s misgendering to demean. Gender and sex are not the same thing. Gender is between the ears. Sex is between the legs. The terms man/woman are gender, not sex terms. Caitlyn Jenner is a woman. That’s a noncontroversial and accurate among the professional medical/psychological…

“Haggle”....is that recommended before or after all 30 applicants finish eagerly applying on site for the super small and crappy but available apartment? (Bay Area Resident)

I agree. I don’t care if everybody is ordering Animal Style. They should. It’s hella good. However, I will defend some of the “secret menu” (special order) as being more than just a reconfiguration. You can order “whole grilled onions” which makes your burger actually taste like onion, rather than having the little…

To be fair, Pride would be even better if there was a lgbt mariachi band in the parade.

Yeah, I dated a couple of bisexual girls. Bisexuals do get a lot of crap from both sides. When newly out an older friend-of-a-friend told me to completely avoid bisexuals or I would become “broken hearted and diseased”. It really is unfair.

Yeah, it’s like in the lesbian world. Some people can pass as straight. Those people did not experience the ostracism in primary school. And they don’t experience street harassment (unless with their non-passing partners) or work discrimination (unless outed). They are considered the “more attractive” lesbians within…

Wow, it’s almost like race and racial discrimination is a complex cultural construct that cannot be placed into a binary experience.

Yeah, in-vitro is not common for lesbians. I’m not sure where this myth comes from. We have double the wombs. In-vitro is for fertility issues. Most couples use artificial insemination. Think turkey baster, not test tube (although that’s not really how either are done). In vitro usually is for: (1)…

It really depends on where/how the child was conceived. In CA if it was done through medical intervention, there is intent and legal standing. If it was done at home, the donor is a father with no second mother. Different states have murkier rules.

1. Fees are lower. Like 5-20x lower. 2. It hedges your future tax burden. Many experts think taxes can only go up. If you haven’t reached your highest tax bracket (usually 45 years or older), then it makes even more sense to use this hedge. 3. The rules that govern Roths are incredibly flexible. You can take all your…

Yeah, the rule of thumb. 1. 401k up to match. 2. Roth to limit (low fee, like Vanguard). 3. Back to 401k unless the fees are murder.

Aging wines is totally missing from this conversation. A $45+ bottle of wine should be built to age at least a little and therefore shouldn’t taste as good as a tasty $14 bottle meant for guzzling right away. In order for a wine to taste good in 10-25 years it needs to have harsh tannins and overly bright fruit. These…

Good talk, but I wish he talked about the dyslexic advantage. It’s often called the ‘MIT disease’ because while it takes time and strategies to compensate for where the brain struggles, on the flip side, it does some pretty cool things for creativity and logic. A lot of programmers (like me) are dyslexic. A…

I have an endless list of hackable ideas in mind. I really enjoy doing them when I get around to it and sometimes they are really useful. But in the past I’ve racked up components for possible projects that just sit there taking up space, taunting me and annoying my spouse. Now I limit myself to one project at a time.…

Babies aren’t very basic. They might not have a fully-formed sense of the world, but they are inherently social and have a baseline understanding of physics.

Yeah, it's my wife's best friend from college. I wasn't nearly as upset a her when they moved to a different state.

I don't think it's all the bride's fault. People feed into this "all about the bride" culture. Some brides naturally gravitate towards attention, and some brides just get really used to it. Also, not just the bride.

I've heard no rumors insinuating self-respect.