I tried to extrapolate a little bit better in further comments. I know the Knox case had nothing to do with the Mafia. Burleigh asserts that it’s a general pervasive cultural effect on journalism in Italy, and she expresses it much better in the book than my scattered brain does.

Killer Rudy Guede agrees with Flow Bee. He says after Raffelle killed Meredith, he pointed at Rudy and told Amanda, “Always the black man gets blamed!” Then they fled. Rudy was so afraid of getting blamed because of the color of his skin that he fled without calling police, danced at a disco until 3 AM, then caught a…

Does DNA not exist in your universe?

Sure, it’s cuz white girls can never be murderers and not because Rudy Guede’s fingerprints, bloody palm prints, and DNA were found all over Meredith’s room and body.

The Kercher family seems insane for believing Knox is guilty, anyone who looks into the case aside from the media can see how corrupt the Italian police are and how little evidence there was for Amanda being involved, her strange personality aside.

I think they know what happened, Rudy Guede murdered her and was convicted for it. The case against Amanda Knox and her boyfriend was just a witch hunt fueled by the press and public.

My heart aches for Meredith’s family who will never know what really happened. And of course for Amanda Knox whose life was turned upside down by a superstitious and inept police dept + a misogynistic press using femme fatale to sell a story.

Podophobic — if your office doesn’t have a dress code, then you need to mind your own fucking business. I mean, I have plenty of opinions about how people should dress at work. Most of them are stupid and I keep them to myself. They include:

No bare feet

I’d be down for this theory, except if you put money in the plate, the CC is a hierarchical institution, so you end up supporting the awfulness of most of Catholicism.

Sorry, but the Catholic Church as an institution has caused way more misery than it has done good for the world. And, if you don’t believe that, you should count yourself lucky to not have been one of its victims.

Um, the Catholic church literally has no variation. Individual churches can *try* and do their own thing, but if the Mother Church really disagrees and decides to step in, that’s the ballgame. The Catholic church is an institution, and institutions don’t really do variety. And if someone is Catholic for cultural…

Can we please stop pretending that Catholic theology isn’t vicious and destructive?

Step Nine is there specifically for situations like infidelity. We make amends “except when to do so would damage them or others”. Bill Wilson had these issues in his own life, as do many people everywhere, hence this step.

Another good approach is the “play dumb” angle. “I don’t understand what you mean about her having a bomb under her dress?” Force him to own it, and then if he actually admits to being racist, tell him you don’t approve of racism.

I don’t know. Some people really lose all capacity for empathy when they have kids. If it’s not their kids, they’re incapable of caring about anyone. Most of them have the good sense to realise this and shut up about it, but some of them lose their empathy and all self-awareness and don’t realise everyone else thinks…

So what is your experience with people cheating/making bad choices?Mine is that it’s not always black and white and that people in general are not perfect. I’ve seen men cheat on women and women cheat on men. Usually, there are already problems in the relationship. But, because someone makes a mistake, that doesn’t…

I entered an S-program without ever having physically cheated on a partner in my life. It’s actually not uncommon. What I’ve seen happen frequently is people fix a different addiction in their life, like AA, and then realize that whatever was compelling them to drink is also effecting their love lives. Nothing about…

NO!! Often telling your partner that you cheated alleviates the cheater’s guilt but causes unnecessary hurt to the partner. If he has truly moved on and committed to his wife, nothing good will come for telling her. If he has unresolved feeling of guilty, he needs to channel that into being good to his wife.

Nope. Bad idea. For the first time, I’m with Jane Marie on this one.

I’ve quickly learned (from Captain Awkward: go there right now if you’ve never been, I have grown so much as a person and a “bitch) that having a “script” of responses takes a lot of the pressure off. Next time potential FIL says something racist, look him in the eye, let the silence become just a bit uncomfortable,…