I'd agree with you, but I'm guessing the drunk woman he drags home at 3 in the morning "...shouldn't have gotten that drunk if she didn't want to..." so.

I remember that too. My little brother packed up all of his plaids and donated them to Goodwill the next day. The death of grunge.

Those really work? Cool! I saw it (on TV maybe?) and thought it looked like a good idea, but wasn't sure of the execution.

When I was teaching ESL, I had a student, a doctor from Cuba, whose parents had immigrated from Russia. She was a tiny little blonde thing that by Vogue standards would have been quite the prize. She *hated* her body because her butt was too flat and she told stories about stuffing the back of her shorts when she…

I went to the punk fashion show at the Met last year and wanted to punch myself in the face—almost all of the looks were from high fashion designers—just a couple of nods to actual street fashion. I think if you had added up the price of every article of clothing and accessory I had in the 1980s it would not have…

I worked as a personal trainer in a predominantly Latin@ gym. Most members were from South America. I've always gotten "...for a white girl" tagged on to the end of comments about my body. The number one request I would get from female clients was could I help them get a bigger butt or more often, "a butt like…

Assholes (by which I mean anuses) serve an actual, vital function for the body, removing waste to keep the organism healthy. Brian Kilmeade is something else...a skin tag on an elderly man's taint maybe?

I had a friend, Jamie Denbo (who's gone on to some success in Hollywood), from my UCB days—she did an AMAZING one-woman show which included a character narrating a story based on the J. Crew catalog, reading it as if it were an illustrated novel. I really wish I had a recording of that performance, it was…

It's known as the No True Scotsman fallacy. It's a way for men to distance themselves from the actions of other men. You are 100% right.

But who do black people think you are?

It looks like an anti-vegetarian name, the way our fake meat has misspelled names like Chik'n—maybe something that looks and tastes like a cucumber, but is made out of bacon.

TBH, I might have asked the fat-free question as a joke, and with a totally deadpan delivery—if the server got it and laughed, cool, if not I would have just said never mind. I do the same thing to my doctors when they ask if I'm sexually active—I almost always reply, "No, mostly I just lay there." 4 out of 5…

Maybe if male cabbies start losing revenue to these women-only services they'll figure it out. I've been taking cabs as a single woman for over 30 years and it is really disturbing when the driver keeps asking intensely personal questions or wants to know if I'm married, can he call me, can he come up to use the…

I accidentally came across it once and they were doing an episode about land use rights (Apple Jack's orchard vs. the "native" Buffalo) —it was more nuanced than anything I'd seen on CNN or other "serious" media.

I wore a Rainbow Dash patch on the hips of my running tights when I did my first marathon. I don't know that anybody noticed, but it made me about 20% cooler.

You know what, if their takeaway, whatever it is, gets them to think twice before groping someone, I don't care what it is. I'm guessing that the absolutely reasonable lesson that you suggest would be lost on this sort of person.

The problem with this kind of "joking" is that there really aren't any other voices out there advocating *for* larger bodies. The only discourse is LOL Fatty! especially for men. Not OK.

I never knew they could get that big, which makes this all the more awesome.

I'm super sad because a linen dress I made in 1990 is finally starting to wear through right when my perfect pair of ten year old black pants started to give way as well. I don't think I ever intended for it to be such a staple, but it is a very simple, long dress and really has not gone out of style (to the degree…

I've taught a few friends to sew. One of them, who doesn't actually do much sewing, told me it was incredibly useful for being able to judge the quality of off-the-rack clothing now. She checks every seam, lining and grainline now. Makes my heart happy.