If you don’t understand the problem with a boss harassing and intimidating staffers and a government employee using his office as Conyers did, then no one can help you understand that a standard has to be maintained for all our sakes.

This is a good comment.

Well in fairness they do sometimes around where I live. However bears are bigger and unlikely to be in your shower.

I guarantee you she is scared of bears in America. I’m an American ex-pat in Australia, and when I say that everything here wants to kill you, the standard Aussie reply is, “Yeah, but you guys have bears in America.” I think they think bears are just roaming our streets.

Are men just...allergic to giving good apologies?

Oh gotcha. That all makes sense to me and I totally agree. And, reading that you’re involved in the BDSM community, I totally get why and how I misread some of your original post.

I don’t mind that she doesn’t believe it happenef, but a public show of support was an idiotic move. Let the investigation unfurl, support him as a friend during it. What does going public help? It makes it about you. Unless she has proof to bring to light, which she should do then.

Lena is generally an A+ illustration of the old adage re: liberals, “An outspoken group on many subjects. Ten degrees to the left of center in good times. Ten degrees to the right of center if it affects them personally.”

Lena Dunham is trash. She is garbage. No one should be surprised. Is anyone surprised?

I’m not surprised that Lena Dunham decided to defend a rapist. Lena is just an asshole. I’m glad Asia Argento called her out on the bullshit.

So you take the low road. Not very cool or manly.

But yeah Ilatch onto cunt. Also I’m going to highlight “kill yourself you pitiful bitch”

That’s not what she’s doing. She’s trying to enlighten you on women’s reality. You’re not taking it in, but she’s written well thought out and articulated stuff and all you have is “SHES RESPONSIBLE FOR HERSELF” as if he did no wrongdoing! You are pathetic for caring so much about this man’s feelings and not the…

“He asked to take it off, she said yes.” HE SELFISHLY FUCKED UP FIRST  and as Vag has been saying so well...she ALREADY said no, by simply not wanting unprotected sex in the first place. Why is he propositioning her like that?? And why do you think she should be able to take a question like that in stride??? HE’S A…

It’s that women STRUGGLE with feelings and don’t know what to say when pressured and they CAVE and you have NO IDEA HOW THIS FEELS, so please don’t speak like it’s not important!!

I’m a woman who has a lot of casual sex with men. I have data on this scenario. It is NOT common for men to ask to not use a condom during sex. And the ones who do are jerks. They are selfish and manipulative sexually, regardless of what kind of person they are with their clothes on. Men who aren’t jerks understand…

Sorry no one’s ever felt excited about fucking you, but if you didn’t get enthusiastic consent you’ve never had sex, only rape.

1) Calling them both mistakes, especially how Ariely presented it, IS drawing an equivalency. And he’s also saying both are a natural part of being human. Maybe he’s right, but my experience as a human suggests otherwise. That’s why I wanted to know more about the actual study he did. Do you think it’s common for…

I’d like to hear more about Ariely’s studies and how he reached his conclusion, because the way he frames it and it’s presented it sounds like he’s drawing an equivalency between the man and you in the situation, i.e. you both just made a human mistake in a heightened state of passion.