The entire exchange about who is “always” in the mood, whether men or women require emotional attachment, where to find “gals” and “ladies” who don’t require emotional attachment, dudes always being in the mood . . . is one long set of stereotypes and bullshit dressed up as two woke cats talking it out. So, no,…

No, it doesn’t ruin the romance. It’s actually very nice to hear a guy openly say he likes you. As a matter of fact, VERBAL communication is the answer to so much confusion I’m reading here. Much better to tell someone you’d like to kiss them and them decline than move in on them and either have them reject you…

Saying to you what I said to someone else—sorry for the repeat. Think about when and where you made the advance. Think about what you said leading up to it. If, as in Hannah’s story, you let a girl think she’s just your buddy right up until she’s in your apartment in the middle of the night to “crash on your couch,”…

More than once, I’ve said to someone on a date, “I really want to kiss you right now” with a wry grin on my face. Saying those words, I promise you it’s never been a mood killer.

Yes, it is always wrong to make the advance after the woman says “no.” If she is operating with the antiquated rulebook of “coyness” in hand, she will learn not to do that, just as men are now learning more and more about consent. Also if a woman likes you and sends the wrong signal, she WILL find a way to correct…

The thing is...it is easy to have strictly platonic friendships. Just don’t try to sleep with your friend because she agreed to stay at your house. If she agrees to sleep in your bed, and you try to touch her and she isn’t responsive, don’t try to touch her again. While I certainly agree that a woman agreeing to sleep…

You were assaulted, period. Whether or not another received worse doesnt negate what happened to you. Dont let anyone try and diminish the impact that it has had on your life. Do try and find someone to talk to about this and how it has changed you. Very sorry.

Yes! And also the power of peer pressure when a social group has no tolerance for sexual assault. I think that hat makes se a husband I’ve difference in the lives of the writer and her assailant after the fact.

Thank you for this.

This is amazing. It really brings home to me how important comprehensive sex education is, especially the parts about CONSENT!

Thank you for sharing this.

Right. You are fine with people allowing him to create work, and then it’s up to people to decide whether they want to make him successful. I am wondering how people can look past this and allow him to create work in the first place since I could not.

I understand that if you serve your sentence, legally you should be able to be live like any other citizen. That doesn’t mean I personally have to like it or even make room for such a person, especially when the crime was that you killed someone by repeatedly beating the shit out of them. There are crimes and there…

This is exactly the issue. I’m all for criminals being rehabilitated and reintegrated into society. I’m not for a celebrity horrifically stealing the life of another person, going away for a few years, and then coming back all like, “ok, where were we before my inconvenient mid-career hiatus? it’s time for me to…

Perhaps you don’t know who he is so some context: before killing Marie Trintignant (daughter of Jean-Louis Trintignant, a famous French actor) Bertrand Cantat was a rock star, a “rebel”. He was very involved in left-wing causes, he wrote a lot of “progressive” songs. He spent only 4 years in jail for murdering his…

Yes, he served his laughably pitiful prison sentence as required under law. That doesn’t mean that he should be welcomed back into society with open arms.

He killed someone and served 4 years, sorry if I don’t believe that’s really paying your dues.

Eight year sentence, standard is parole after half of its served. What’s shocking is that the equivalent crime here (2nd degree murder) usually carries a HARSHER sentence than that, 10 is I think the lowest minimum you’ll find, usually it’s somewhere between 15 and 25 though. Kind of shocked when other western…

I’ve been WAITING for y’all to get to this story.

If he couldn’t have learned anything new since the late 70's he would have no qualifications for being a studio head. When a person “came of age” is no excuse for anything.