The problem with VERY private arrangements is that they are not known to work because most people don’t think of all the possibilities and know the monetary average cost for services. It is best to have a mediator because all the details of surrogacy need to be laid out by people who are aware of all the risks. And…

Hm, yes, a friend can make suggestion and offer encouragement. But does a confessional count and as a suggestion to a friend? I don’t really understand how to navigate the process map here. Is communication to the audience also communication with a friend?

If weight loss was this simple, we will not have obesity problem. Stop pretending/popularizing theory that weight gain (or not able to lose excess weight) is a self-control/will power issue.

The motivation for everything this “government” does is glaringly obvious if you accept a few simple suppositions. 1) They’re in bed with Russia. 2) It’s all about their own personal fortunes. 3) Literally nothing else matters to them.

I mean at least screw the planet through a giant mega man made island compound or by buying the ocean or creating a fortress of solitude using the power of baby otters-something openly dr evilly and interesting- not through a bureaucratic position. I mean wtf. If I were that wealthy, I would NEVER attend another…

When I first started to think OB might be for me, multiple people tried to warn me off it, saying that OBs are “too intense” or that I’d get “eaten alive for being too nice.” It really freaked me out because these were all otherwise reasonable people, but then I got to med school and realized that a) being “nice” will…

I got into OB exactly because of this — everyone, from the doctors to the nurses to the surgical techs, is a loud-mouthed, sassy, opinionated chick. The overt and mentally draining sexism and harassment that I encountered during other med school rotations just wasn’t there when I did my OB rotation. Yes, residency was…

“I fucking crushed that rotation”

The orthopedic surgery comment makes me suspect we have a bro on our hands. If he’s allowed to perpetuate the stereotype that OB/GYNs are bitchy (weird, a female dominated speciality full of assertive, decisive women is derided as bitchy and mean?!?) then we get to make jokes about jocktastic ortho bros.

Yea, I hadn’t thought of it that way, but definitely true. As a student, my SO (female) was never assumed to be a medical student, resident or doctor - it was ALWAYS nurse.

“Have you given money to other people on other occasions? How much money?”

Pretty much the example I use when I get angry with someone for asking “what was she wearing / was she drunk”. You don’t ask that shit for any other crime - I mean, can you imagine? “Oh you claim you were mugged? Well what were you doing? Were you taking money out of the ATM? Were you dressed in a suit and looking…

Exactly! Whenever I see a police department decline to investigate just because it’s there’s only the victim’s account and rape kit, I’m floored. Most murders, all there is is a body. The body can’t even identify the attacker. But you still investigate! Police seem way too willing to brush aside a rape case before…

Right? It’s almost like we should be looking at perpetrators rather than victims. Oops, I mean ‘individual incidents’.

Pretty sure nearly every college campus has a list of guys to avoid. Serial date-rapists are probably much more common than the kidnapping variety described above, there just aren’t rape kits done for those unreported assaults.

I cannot imagine any other criminal scenario in which this is okay. Oh, we have the bullets used in 100,000 murders and each one has a clear fingerprint on the casing, but we aren't running the prints and, funny story, we even misplaced a bunch of the bullets. Sorry for the inconvenience; thoughts and prayers.

I’m trying really hard to keep my inner Lewis Black caged but, you know, the thing about serial rapists is that actually testing the motherfucking kits would help to catch and convict them and would lead to fewer rapes!

It’s almost like we shouldn’t be ignoring rape kits. Who knew?

Far more common than who thought? Because I’m pretty sure most women are not surprised by the news that when rapists get away with one rape, they go commit more. That’s what happens when a society doesn’t take rape as seriously as it should.