What a way to go...

Yah, I watch the show and I still hate how it’s rape-a-palooza but I consider my reading time more valuable than my tv time so I’m willing to see it out in a way I won’t with books. The show and book commit another of my peeves wherein penises need only show up to the party and everyone just seems to be an orgasm…

One of the reasons I really couldn’t get into outlander is that the story is too dependent on rape and attempted or threatened rape, to tell us who the bad guys are. It may be apt for the time, since women were basically property but it’s a fantasy story and I think a great author can find more interesting tools to…

Well, it sounds like we agree! The whole business sounds awful, any discussion about it is inherently awful. I kind of hope you’re not reading this, not because I don’t care what you thought, but because it seems like this was really stressful and personal for you, and I am very sorry about that.

To be honest, I think I’m having a melt-down, and just need one person to talk me through it.

Not his place to deny her abuse—after all, to your earlier point, he wasn’t there, right?

“Ok. I do keep quiet on this every time it pops up on Jez, but... there is no proof he did anything.”

There is a great article from Matt Seitz about this topic:

You should talk to someone,anyone, if you need to about your own abusive experience.

Okay, it’s not a requirement to know how sexual predators work. But when you post some screed about how he’s innocent for reasons that do not reflect reality that’s a problem.

If you’ve been abused being exact is almost impossible because of the way that trauma impacts memory formation.

Welcome to one of the reasons I think SVU has actually made the perception of rape victims worse, even as it has made people more sensitive to the frequency and intensity of rape. We are more aware than ever before about how prevalent rape is, but we discount how rape victims are treated in the status quo because…

I mean that I know very few people who have been victims of rape, molestation, etc, whose first inclination is to cast doubt upon others claiming abuse.

You don’t have to get it, because it is not about you. Where’s your empathy for the innocent victims here?

Actually, I’m even surprised there are more than one victim considering that he’s a filmmaker and photographer. He could get all the trophies he needs to relive molesting just one victim and have it last him a lifetime.

Dating your former partner’s child is weird, even if you didn’t marry that partner. I do not understand people who choose to focus on that part of things at all.

On the other hand, at least it is being acknowledged (tho, in the wrong way). It used to be too taboo to even talk about. Having sexual assault occurring in mainstream media makes it easier to admit when it happens in real life. It’s the way in which it is depicted that is the problem.

That or, just stare them down. Don't say anything, just uncomfortable eye contact til they accept your response and move on.

I wouldn’t mind this so much if it were EVER used on a male character. I mean, men get raped, too. Have you ever seen a sexy/gratuitously nude male rape scene? Why is a man’s rape or childhood sexual abuse never what makes him tough and stoic? In the rare case it is mentioned, it always makes him unhinged and fucked…

Yeah, her fervent enthusiasm for Bernie can be a bit off-putting but here’s a woman who is not afraid to say what she thinks. And I have nothing but respect for that.