Nope. I’m saying that most rape accusations are true, false accusations are not a legitimate reason to avoid these kinds of sanctions, and that rape is the actual problem here that needs to be solved. Also that all of the accused admit to touching these women. They’d have been fine if they obtained affirmative consent…

I think buried in there was an interesting nugget though.

I dunno but I know that if I’m having kids and therefore damaging my earning potential for a man I sure as fuck want what he’s earning while I’m gestating and restarting my career to be factored in if we split. Until motherhood and being a married woman doesn’t hit your income (and research shows it does) I think a…

I dunno, doesn’t questions about a party and a piece of jewelry but wanting to have kids with her kind of point to his not an issue with the commitment? The “how will this change us” is a real question though and worth looking more deeply at. Does he feel that getting married itself changed his previous relationship…

I think people are conflating marriage - the future of your relationship, the commitment, the bond - with marriage - the legal thing and the party. It sounds like he wants the future, the commitment, hell even kids but didn’t want the party and the paperwork. For some people like her it’s a package deal - they don’t…

Being asked to leave a university because you broke the code of conduct is not unique to sexual assault. You can be expelled for grades or stalking or academic misconduct or violence or or or or. Follow the rules, ask for and obtain ongoing consent, don’t fuck people who are drunk and you’ll be fine. It’s really not…

You know that when some people say that language is impacting them, denying it is not an argument? Like at all. People are saying it is the norm, and they don’t like it, and they think it’s harmful, and they think it should change. Could you consider that your experience of it might be different than the way other…

I dunno, I kind of think that if the law and basic human decency is resulting in still a ton of people being assaulted maybe another conversation is in order? Or are we kind of ok with that being the status quo in our communities?

They cannot act as law enforcement and it’s not even in the best interest of victims for them to attempt to do so. Having less stringent standards than the law is what enables them to move someone out of your class without waiting years for a criminal case to be investigated and adjudicated, if it ever is.

I don’t even know what you’re trying to say. If victims are reaching out to the university because they want to move dorms or have a person not allowed to be near them or switched out of their classes, that’s absolutely their right. That’s why these processes exist. The cops aren’t going to do a damn thing to protect…

The intention of these proceedings is not and never has been to substitute for a legal investigation. There’s no evidence preservation or CSI style ideal. It’s supposed to determine whether university policies have been violated and whether university-based solutions can be applied.

It reads like you believe that an African American police chief is incapable of presiding over a racist or violent police force. Do you think black police chiefs have some magical power to eliminate racism or violence on their own? I don’t know this police force or this chief but as a concept people of color can and…

They are pissed about someone not standing for the anthem. There is never going to be a time or place or method of protest that is acceptable to people who want to maintain the status quo. They don’t need an excuse to criticize and if there isn’t one they’ll invent or instigate one. There is no talking them around.

Dear God. Block block block. Sending healing vibes from a fellow psychotic mom survivor.

Dude this was two months ago.

Addicts can be super uptight about any substances once they clean up, for obvious reasons.

No one’s shitting on the kid. The kid is a badass and would probably shrug off a comment like this, which was actually a joke directed at her parents. Since she presumably did not name herself.

I think that conservatives should be very careful with this particular stone in this particular glass house. Because a huge number of women seek abortion care, and a huge number of them identify as religious. It’s very likely that many of the relatives and partners of the male public servants have used Planned…

I’m not cool with white men being allowed to abuse with impunity.

Every white man that has admitted guilt?