Yesssss.

Thank you dear! Autism in girls sounds super different to the kind I know and it's interesting. I trust school will help her!

For clothes and that kind of thing I get rid of anything I haven’t worn in a year, doesn’t fit or is generally not in good condition anymore (eg. weird stains, pilly beyond relief, too washed out, I’ve grown bored of it). As for other stuff I try to get rid of things that only serve one purpose and don’t get used…

Good job! Life feels so much better once we start doing things for ourselves!

Hey everybody! Happy New Year!

I got the OK to have one cup of coffee a day in my first pregnancy checkup. I don’t even drink it but I thought it was cool to know so I could drink Coca Cola in peace.

Fair, but many preemies end up needing caffeine because it helps with things like apnea spells. Mine had it too but I never drank coffee while pregnant (not because of the pregnancy, because I just don’t drink it often)

I mean, she had preeclampsia. Been there, done that and I would 100% consider surrogacy if this were something I could afford. As it is, I think I’ll just stay with my one child because affording another even the regular way is impossible.

Ughhh good luck with that! We had like 3 of those last winter and it was hell.

We’re doing great. Currently on a small vacation at my mom’s and deciding whether to move in a month or so. I don’t like where I live and I found out there’s a 20x nicer neighborhood where rent is just marginally more expensive. I won’t be able to walk to work anymore, BUT there will be trees and cleaner streets and…

I’m safe, I promise 😊 I’ve also been there and he’s not abusive - he’s generally respectful but he was texting me a lot. I shut it down (a bit harshly maybe) and he fell back into line. I’m having trouble with the day to day things, like when he comes to visit his daughter (he still hasn’t found/can’t afford his own…

lol I am super not romanced by any of it. For all his remorse he still didn't give me any money for her expenses and still sees his other daughter more often than Catita. I gain nothing by taking him back. 

I think you can try sending a standard polite but distant message - I’m so sorry, I imagine this is very hard, here’s a fun anecdote with the dog, I’m super busy with the holidays. Then don’t engage. Or, you know, say nothing if you think she'll explode at you. You come first! 

I feel like babies are the perfect excuse to be rude to other people. You have a fragile tiny person to take care of and there's no way an irresponsible person will be up to the task. So be rude! They'll get over it. 

That sucks. I wonder if you could get a doctor’s note to excuse you from working those extra shifts. I’m also in the camp that is better for you to quit but if it doesn’t work for you maybe you can try this other approach. 

That cat is on serious business.

Catita got her 18 month vaccines this week, so she’s been feeling sucky. I tried photographing her with the cat (lol I have a Cat and a cat) but she moves too fast now! Her vaccines were about two months overdue as she was ill for a while, possibly with whopping cough. I didn’t test her because it was crazy expensive…

I promise! I mean, I know I should’ve done this months ago but I guess I wasn’t ready. I’ve been feeling pretty good about this whole thing so I know it was the right decision. Thanks <3

I know like 4 of these people.

Thanks! We still fight about the glasses but she can keep them on more often than not. ♥️