Yep. I unfortunately am going to the states in October for the Chicago Marathon, but that’s it for the foreseeable future. There’s official ‘how-to’ boycot lits floating around Canada now (most notable was Mclean’s posting one). and I think it’s finally getting traction. It’s past too much, it’s horrendous, it’s…

I have a small arsenal of professional flats, can’t think of anyone who may ever have thought less of me because I’m wearing flats and not a 3" pump. I have heels, and I love how they look, but my feet hurt so quickly and I can’t walk as fast in them.

I strongly suspect that time because it’s a) within the talked about time frame, b) his parents/family will be there, c) my mother will be there. Trying to not think toooooo much about it because I don’t want to feel disappointed if it isn’t then, and at the end of the day I know we’re on a path I’m very, very happy…

Oh I think I’ll still be surprised, but it’s nice to know that could really be anytime nowadays. I’m not a betting person but I could totally see during the big family reunion/his mom’s 60th birthday/parent’s 40th anniversary celebration later this summer. Also will definitely be tears on both sides, we’re both…

I’m so excited all of a sudden. Early on I told him he had to wait at least a year before proposing because otherwise I was worried my mom or best friend might worry. Now we’re over a year, and it feels so imminent. Much excitement. I’ve never been such a romantic but I’m such a cheesy idiot lately.

Yeah... Have to agree here. My SO and I moved in together after 4 months, which was us WAITING. A month in I flew across the country to met his parents, dropped L bombs, and talked about this being it for both of us. We just hit a year and talk about marriage and kids all the damn time.

I was physically assaulted in the tenderloin at 10 in the goddamn morning. Had a woman who desperately needed mental health assistance get in my face, try and instigate a fight, and when I tried to get away she grabbed my hair. Luckily my friend was with me, who screamed, startled strange woman long enough for her to…

I have started doing that! And yeah, it really has helped. Breaking point was working on the same team as a guy literally twice my age who needs help with E V E R Y T H I N G. Makes me feel awesome, but I also know he’s sub-par, but still. I’ll take it.

Thank you so much for your kind words and all your comments in this thread! You are certainly a gift to everyone you touch.

Your comment hit me hard. I’m a young woman in a male dominated professional field, and failure, or even just my perception of what might be considered failure ruins me at times. I’m slowly getting better at believing in myself, and my capabilities, and remembering that it’s okay to sometimes makes mistakes, everyone…

If I likely wasn’t going to get married in Ontario (SO’s gigantic, wonderful family is there) I’d totally go for Jasper National Park. It’s gorgeous, and I’m from Northern AB so greatly prefer it over Banff, which is also gorgeous but just... so much.

Your friend sounds like me ~4 years ago when my best friend was getting married. Trust me, she will be very happy for you and so happy you’re happy. Tell her, get excited, but also make sure to do bestie stuff with her to remind her that you’re not abandoning her, you’re not leaving her, you’re just getting hitched to…

Ah okay. Thank you for that added information. That clears things up quite a bit, I was unaware that the author was currently going through their transition.

Any child of mine will be firmly taught to show respect and decency to literally every person they ever meet. Full stop.

Wait. Isn’t Daniel Mallory Ortberg a woman? Daniel is traditionally a man’s name but after the title it shows ‘Mallory Ortberg’ as a woman and refers to the writer as so.

I don’t disagree that men are a significant portion of the people who are negatively affected by the current state of society and masculinity, but that DOESN’T MEAN THAT WOMEN HAVE TO FIX IT. It’s hard, yes, but women have fought tooth and nail for fucking centuries to get where we are now. We are impacted by this…

I’m so glad my SO is receptive to my stories about how so many men/boys have treated me over the years. Makes me feel like we’ll be a united front with any potential future boys we may have. You treat EVERYONE with decency and respect, you WILL NOT chase after that girl because you think she’s cute, you will speak…

Meh. I grew up with divorced parents and a mother with a different last name than me. We had a full birth certificate showing both parent’s full names on it which occasionally got used at the border when I travelled with her. Since they were divorced also had notarized letters that stated my father was aware I was…

Discussion with my SO was luckily a ‘I’m not changing my name. My name is part of my identity.’ That was that. If he had gotten bent out of shape over something like that it actually would’ve really upset me, since the man I’m with I believe has very similar social ideals as I do, including things that seem so benign…

I’m not changing mine because I don’t want to. There are reasons why I don’t want to (my last name is a nickname for me from growing up/university, plus I’m a professional and don’t want my name recognition with people being wiped out by marriage). At the end of the day, all that truly matters it that I don’t want to.