And then there’s my favorite counter argument, ‘but this trained job makes a living wage, why do you think mere burger flippers should make the same amount as the person in the trained job?’ Well, I think someone in a trained job should probably make more than just a living wage.

Fact. I’ve started using the expression, “your tax dollars will pay for it, one way or another.” People who complain about welfare recipients, I tell them you can pay to feed and house your fellow citizens, or you will pay to clean up their bodies in the streets; and the PTSD therapy for the first responders.

Eagles at #1 is mind boggling. Did that many people like “Hotel California”?

i’ll keep saying this til i’m blue in the face:
reboot bad things, not good things

I have two teenager girls and with porn being so available, it makes me incredibly nervous that, because anything can been seen anytime, it will make things that are kink or fetish more “expected”, rather than something that people do because it’s something they are into, so more young women and women general are…

You’re frighteningly stupid.

I mean it isn’t so much having the kink as how you execute and behave about it. Like I think choking is super dangerous (because fucking it up causes a pretty big problem even if you are doing it to yourself) but a pretty big problem with it is some people seeing it as coming standard and just doing it without…

Or maybe a significant amount of learned sexual behaviour and expectations hurts and is something we should address culturally?

I’m glad to hear someone else say this, because I honestly think this too. The number of men who have just tried to strangle me during sex without asking (I’m not into it and even the slightest suggestion of violence or force turns me off instantly, but even if that weren’t the case, you can’t just DO that shit…

I wouldn’t be so quick to dismiss the idea that a lot of men believe this stuff is what women want. I’m not here to kink shame anyone, but the recent obsession with choking in more “mainstream porn” troubles me. Also, I’ve seen plenty of memes joking about making a woman gag during fellatio.

I’ll repeat what I posted above.

I am serious. There have been a number of men who have slapped me, shoved their cocks down my throat and put their hands on my neck when there was no prior discussion about it. If that’s not your lived experience, or you are a man and don’t act like that, great. But don’t you dare tell me what my reality is.

It’s not for you. It’s for racist white dudes who also happen to hate women.

There are a lot of porn tags out there that lead into this kind of thing. It’s really weird to me, because I watch gay porn (being married to a dude) but I watch a bit of straight porn. I find the straight porn has weird categories that come up, like “anal pain” which seems all about coercing women into having painful…

I’ve had hookups try and do it a few times. Like nasty woodland creature said, I think they’re just mimicking what they see in porn (and that porn keeps edging up on conflating women being pushed past their limits of comfort or pleasure with how Men Do Sex).

Why is he sticking his fingers down her throat? Is that something straight guys do? Is that supposed to be a turn-on? WTF?

I don’t really l care about Seal or his thoughts, but I don’t want Oprah to run for president.

Eliza Dushku shared the account of what happened to her while she was filming “True Lies” at the hands of the director, Joel Kramer:

Because Allison Janney is really fucking amazing in it? It also reveals a lot about how America really is and domestic abuse is handed down generationally. On top of all of that it’s darkly funny.

People don’t know what to cast her as aside from a maid or assistant because they cannot see beyond stereotypes. So shortsighted. I think she is amazing.