Agree, they both were letting ego control them, but honestly, watching Osaka cry (not in the joyous way she deserved) just felt like this was a match of egos that did not recognize the superior game Osaka brought.

As a die-hard Serena fan, I have to agree. I cringed and even cried when poor Naomi APOLOGIZED for winning. She dominated that game. Serena lost it, no matter how justified she felt (and truthfully, the first call was bull).

Gotta agree. Osaka outplayed her, no question. I feel bad she couldn’t enjoy this victory, because she earned it.

I am a huge Serena fan, and watched this live, but she was still disgruntled and in my opinion, only gave lip service to Osaka’s game “she played well,” is what she said. I was disappointed in her recognition of Naomi, even knowing how bitter, and rightfully so, she must have felt about the rule calling on the game.…

I can understand him walking back single payer at that time though, considering the fight for the stripped down ACA that ensued. He needed to sell it and get public support and make it seem like it wasn’t a burden to taxpayers. What gets publicly expressed is pure politics, we can’t know what he wanted versus what was…

Jared’s “All Summer in Day,” moment, without the narrative empathy.

I also teach recognizing fallacies and syllogisms in my intro rhet/comp class, and I’ve used this video to warm up the topic:

I suspect you’re right with the second observation, because I can sense that there are things going on that I don’t know about, and he’s been super defensive or avoids me whenever I try to have a discussion (discussion at the beginning, it evolves into an argument where he immediately goes on the attack). In this case…

Good advice, but he refused to do that too. Says that he works hard for his money and deserves (insert whatever here). Won’t be put on a budget. This is a huge factor, as you point out.

Wow, thank you. That’s very helpful. I’ll look and see if there are any in my area.

Thank you, great advice. I have talked to my therapist and we are beginning to build those boundaries.

Yes, and I was talking about my first marriage (when I was youngish, now 44)! This is my second and I’m trying harder with this one to not have it fail, but everything you’ve said above rings true: when he’s gone, I’m relieved and sometimes I get pissed when he comes home. I’m realizing from all the excellent wisdom…

Thank you. The support here too has been extremely helpful.

Thank you, this is excellent advice and very wise re: that I can’t change him and to live my own life. You’re so right.

Thank you. The advice all around has been excellent.

Good luck.

Thank you, what a really great response, very wise. I’m also in that split mindset and probably will always be. I guess I feel shocked about how quickly it turned to not starry-eyed to feeling like sometimes I live with a stranger. You’re right, things evolve and change, but I’m not sure yet if it’s a change I can…

Thank you. I’m sorry. Do you think if someone else other than your wife had talked to you, a friend or family member, you would have made a different decision? I’m reallllly hesitant to involve others in our problems, but he easily waves away suggestions from me.

In his thinking clearly-about-to-lose-me moments, yes, he knows it’s important, not just to me but to us and to him individually. But he talks himself out of it within a day or two, when things are better with us (which is only because he agreed in the first place). He has also said that he doesn’t want to admit to…

Whoa. Can you pick any new identity? ;)