And I would say there’s a distinction here, too. When I’ve dated, there have been people who are generally in a swirl about how to feel about me. But then there are others, like a former girlfriend with whom I’m getting back together who are all “I don’t give a shit; I love you” about it.

It’s basically a false dichotomy that attempts to set up “trans women” and “cis women” as two uniform, mutually-exclusive categories in order to frame our womanhood as less-than or flat-out invalid. Because “don’t tell me you’re the same as me” is really just a euphemistic way of saying “don’t try to claim that you’re…

I appreciate you saying this. I’m 45 and grew up with older parents in a decidedly regressive area...my attempts at being a supportive ally are limited given how little I understand and I’ve had to stop my parents, who were trying to be helpful and supportive, from making things worse with their comments on occasion.

Well, the overwhelming majority of “gender critical” lesbians (or people generally) that I’ve encountered (again, almost entirely online- maybe I’ve just been singularly blessed to mostly hang out with normal people IRL, although I’m neither living in the States nor super tied into the LGBT community, because I’m old,…

Thanks for this. 

That’s really beautiful. We should hope the parent of every trans child has your moral backbone.

In fact, a transwoman I’m friends with (a lesbian with a no penis preference) was told She was transphobic by another transwoman because of her sexual preferences.

I agree. It’s a remarkably stupid question. My only point is that when it is asked, it is remarkably easy to answer this stupid question in a way that respects an individual’s right to be attracted to whomever they are attracted to and stand up for the principle that all people deserve human rights.

100%

Do enough people believe this to earn prominence as a topic, though?

As the parent of a 16-yr-old trans boy, I can tell you that it is a struggle, and a huge adjustment, and it can totally disrupt your entire family dynamic. But look, that’s what you sign on for when you become a parent, period.

My kid came out to me, and only me, many years ago, and only started to come out to other…

this is some TERFy strawperson bullshit that’s taken out of context.

There are older Trans people

Seriously, these questions were Extremely leading. Unless you spend a lot of time reading up on TERFs and their arguments, one could easily fall for these traps. Obviously Chelsea does, as do many in her generation and younger. Hilary answered the way I expect a politician to do when they sense a trick question, but…

There is a long history of lesbian spaces being exclusionary towards trans lesbians on the basis of perceived genital configuration. Two examples of this were MichFest and the NYC sex party scene, in which “women and trans” access restrictions would exclude trans women in favor of trans men. In both of these contexts,…

I am decidedly not a Hillary fan, but this is a very uncharitable take on what she has said here. 

So, she reveals that she supports trans people and that she’s learning and trying to better herself on a topic and human condition that she wasn’t familiar with for most of her life. And the takeaway here is that that’s “not pretty”? The purity tests are unreal.

“Chappelle claimed that Dorman was “laughing the hardest” at the jokes. But not everyone was laughing. Some claimed the comedy was transphobic.”

There appear to be a lot of details missing from this story, but I think both are true: jokes were made at her expense AND they were friends.