All Adorable Animals welcome here! Thanks so much for your thoughts. I actually was very relieved that this post didn't pull a ton of trolls, but it is definitely good to know that the group here has my back. That is one of the reasons that I did feel safe enough to share here.

I don't mind you asking. In fact, until it happened to me, I probably would have asked many of the same questions.

Damn! That sounds terrifying!

Thankfully, I had Jez and GT to help me understand the concept of sexual agency and that it is absolutely my right to sleep with people without the whole "well you sleep with everyone else, why not me?" shit! What is even worse is when it is women who insinuate you lack of autonomy! If I were religious, I would pray…

You aren't being too nosy, I'm glad to share and participate in a dialog about this type of stuff. I didn't actually go to the police, I was so utterly shocked that I panicked. I pretended to remain asleep and kind of roll over. What's worse is that he stopped when I did that and then started again! He finally…

EXCELLENT point!

It is really overwhelming how many people have had the same experience, but we don't actually tend to talk about it IRL. I'm sorry that you had to go through this as well, but it is inspirational to hear that you are getting your trust back!

awwwwww :(

Ding Ding Ding, we have a Winner!

I'm going to go with lack of consent-based sex ed? I mean, on top of the "nice guy" issues and the "friendzone" bullshit, I think that if we really drilled the concept of consent into our young folk it may help to turn the tide. This wasn't the first time that this had happened to me (well, it was the first time…

Thanks for sharing Mae. I actually don't like talking on the phone, so the RAINN chat client is something I will definitely look into. Thanks!

He claims to have no idea why I am upset, but I at the time I couldn't deal with speaking to him. He had been drinking, so I suppose there are some people who would excuse his behavior because he "didn't know what he was doing," but I tend to think that if you drink too much and it leads you to crawl into another…

I actually had friends look at me and ask me "what did you expect." And I told them. "I expected my platonic friend who I have never so much as kissed to keep his hand out of my vagina." You could hear crickets after I let that one loose!

I think I'm processing it *decently*, but I have definitely thought about actually finding a group where I can maybe talk to younger women about it. I was 40 when this happened, and have been around the block a million times, but really identifying what happened to me and being able to speak about it at all was truly…

Sloths make everything better! Thanks!

Thanks! I am working to get back to a place where I can be more trusting, but it's a pretty long road! :)

Mine didn't do anything as Adult as trying to stick his tongue down my throat. He waited until I passed out on his spare futon one night and decided to crawl in with me and explore my vagina while I slept.

I would love to see Congresswoman Harmon's reaction to why she was interrupted! I would imagine that she won't be clamoring to appear on MSNBC again any time soon.

And if we want to insult the men of America by making them believe that they are helpless without Uncle Sugar coming in and providing for them a prescription each month for Viagra because they cannot get their dicks up without the help of government then so be it!

I think that about once a decade this becomes a thing. I can remember smoking cigars in the late 80's for the same weird "empowerment."