And why Ambassador to Italy I wonder? Because New Jersey has a lot of residents of Italian descent? That has to be one of the best of the “no foreign policy background needed” postings for major donors/supporters. He’s an idiot for turning it down.

Oh man, that is shitty and she should apologize to everyone! The fact that she blamed you and not some rando is strange.

Dude, she threw you under the bus to save herself. Considering the fact that you would have willingly jumped in front of that bus for her, she needs to go. She clearly wouldn’t do the same for you.

Come move to the Noooorrrtttthhhhhhh or wherever the fuck it is I’m living in like six months.

Go read the comment about the two friends from different generations above this and then we need to get our shit together and move to the same city so that can be us.

Unfortunately it sounds like she has an alcohol abuse problem (though she could certainly also be a shit as well) . . . I would suggest you point her towards getting help and then steer clear until she makes some serious changes.

Cut that bitch. Life is too short to surround yourself with people like that. Like you said, accidents are ok. Not realizing something was important to you is forgivable. Intentional hurtful actions are not ok. I dumped a friend after she did something like this to a mutual friend. Like the saying goes: when people…

Trust NO ONE at work. Ever. I live by that rule.

You shouldn’t waste energy trying to make her understand why you’re hurt. If she can’t understand, the chances of her doing something is pretty high. If you like her and have fun with her, stay friends. Just be careful and watch your back.

Are you me? This exact same scenario happened to me twice this week, with two different ‘friends’.

She feels bad. She’s trying to minimize in order to make herself feel better. Sadly I’ve been the betrayer. It’s a bad feeling from that end too.

Yeah, that’s not a difference in values. She knew (or should have known) that was wrong and did it anyway. I’d dump her.

Yeah, I say dump her. Ignore the poster that said accept her apology because she doesn’t consider it a big deal. She basically pushed you under the bus. If she held you in the same esteem that you held her in she wouldn’t have done that.

If all it is is a difference in values, where she thinks X isn’t really a big deal, but you do, then maybe consider accepting her apoligy and being friends again, understanding that she just doesn’t think the same way about this as you.

I am so sorry. That kind of betrayal is incredibly painful. We expect our girlfriends to display constancy and loyalty, which is so rare in the modern world. When they blow you off, it’s a special kind of devastation.

Yes

Some people don’t expect that much of their friends. For me, I don’t have family and my friends are the only people I rely on in this fucked up world and if they hurt me I’m like NOPE! It was hard learning that my notion of friendship isn’t necessarily the norm. I’m sorry your friend was/is a shit. You deserve to have…

I’m so sorry. It all hurts worse when it’s from someone you care about. All I know is that I constantly get burned for trying to be the bigger person.

Thank you! They have plenty places to go whambulance mode.

We have always been at war with Eurasia.