I didn’t tell you you didn’t understand something because “I didn’t agree with you,” I told you that “meant as compliment, so not sexism” is not how sexism works, because it isn’t.

Yeah, and having read your “details?” You are...not the ally you think you are. Congrats on your stars, though!

I didn’t.

Yeah, that’s not really the issue most people are taking with the “mother” comment, but...always good to get a jab in at the objectively minuscule segment of the population that happens to be slightly over-represented in the niche corner of the internet you’re visiting.

THERE it is. This is great.

I think a lot of women chafe at this “women are tough, get stuff done” or “mothers are [xyz positive attribute]” stuff because it can feel like people are implying those traits come easily or naturally, when really they’re the result of very hard work that’s expected disproportionately of us.

I love this. Thank you.

Stop. It’s not “especially” by people who don’t have kids, more broadly, out in the world. Most other adults are parents, and most of the other adults judging and sneering at mothers for their parenting choices are parents.

I do understand that sentiment. I just disagree that any significant portion of people are actually doing what you’re claiming, and certainly not to the extent that your analogy was necessary. Especially not in the comments of this article, where most people’s objections to his “mother” comment aren’t actually about…

That’s kind of the implication when you compare people’s inability to understand it to something as significant as white people dismissing/being incapable of comprehending the black experience.

I still don’t like your analogy.

Yeah, we don’t agree about sexism, based on this comment. And, again—I’m not sure why you expect people to put a ton of time into reading your mind when responding to you. Because none of this was evident in your original comment, beyond the “this isn’t sexist because I don’t think so.”

It’s not that people necessarily think mothers are more “respected” on an individual basis, it’s that people—especially women—are indisputably expected and encouraged to make the choice to become parents, and that we reward that choice in complex ways, while often ostracizing, distrusting, and looking down upon women…

It’s weird how you automatically jump to “childfree people, rahh!” when the issue people have is the comparison between what’s expected of mothers and fathers.

Great, but next time try to do that without making dismissive, sexist comments that, in context, are insulting to and dismissive of women and feminism in general. Not trying to be snarky, honestly—if that’s the kind of thought that pops into your mind when an article riles you up, you have some things to work on.

What? I didn’t pick a fight with you. And whether or not something is sexist, in context, isn’t totally a matter of opinion, or at least not one on which all opinions are equal or equally informed.

Funnily enough, it’s actually untrue AND boring. If you wanted to complain about the author or this article specifically, you could have done that. Instead you whined about all the man-hating feminists. Bye.

Boring take.

That’s not how sexism works. It’s not 100% about intent, because broader context matters when individuals speak.

Couldn’t you have tried a bit harder to respond to this person without reinforcing terrible stereotypes about anyone who doesn’t have the same normative desires/goals as you do?