It's not super common but it is super illegal (depending on your state). I've had families try to offer me just room and board despite me saying I will not be a live-in-nanny. In my experience as a nanny the people who try to negotiate that sort of deal are trying to take advantage. No paycheck means you are stuck.…

Not everyone has good/healthy/safe relationships with their parents. I might beg my parents to stay with me if they were homeless but I have other friends that wouldn't lift a finger and I'd support it given what I know. I don't know enough about her or her family to judge why she's not being taken in. I feel bad for…

WHOA! I am a nanny in Portland and this is just so insane to me. With this story and that "crazy" nanny down in California I hope people don't start distrusting nannies. There are some really good and hardworking nannies about. This is very upsetting. I hope the kids have no permanent damage and that the parents are…

They can put it on the market but not actually accept any offers. I vote they just trick her. Once they appear to be selling she would, I think, try to find somewhere else to live. But both parties are in the wrong here so it can be hard to see what a judge/jury will decide.

It says in the article she's threatening to sue for elderly abuse. So they need to prove that's not happening. Since they weren't paying a wage it is reasonable to assume she has no money for food and she relied on them for it. If they don't provide food it could appear to be abuse even if it really isn't. However, if…

As a nanny who works for an agency and gets hired through them- which comes with specific contracts for each family- this is upsetting.

Unfortunately, that might fall under elder abuse. While she is an adult fully capable of fetching food- if they don't have food accessible to her she could try and file. It might not stick but it will tie them up. I would probably just try and move. Or pretend to. Put the house up for sale and make like you're…

same here. i will only touch a stranger if its an emergency of sorts- like grabbing someone so they don't walk into traffic/fall down stairs/etc.

oh man. the hair thing- i also have long hair and people always try to touch my hair. i know its mostly a benign action and not aggressive in nature, it is invasive and it sets a president for more touching. i remember my cousin (she was maybe 6 months pregnant at the time) had an older woman come up and just touch…

so many generations have never been taught how to properly set boundaries (especially women and girls). its been all about politeness, not making a scene, etc. but you know who is generally embarrassed by a scene happening? the person doing something wrong. and maybe more scenes should happen. they should be…

i'm not concerned about her reaction to my touching him by way of pulling on his ear or arm. especially given my being employed to take care of children and cleared by the state as well as being a QMHA- Qualified Mental Health Associate (and the children's mother/my boss is a lawyer and she feels as though any action…

i desperately want her to know that she can set boundaries and that if someone does not respect them then she can and should stick up for herself- even if that means hitting (but that she should not always hit when she is upset, but she's only 3 so...it'll all take one way or another). and that she should respect…

I want it to stop. We don't know how. Either we we never leave our parent's home (and even that's not 100% safe) or we "lie back and think of England" every time this happens.

It's a very common misunderstanding. My dad was a cop, my mom a paralegal, and I helped a friend obtain one against her abusive ex once. I'm just well versed in that particular system :)

That's why I like the writing. It reminds you to be empathetic and see people for more than their acts. Not saying that what she did wasn't wrong, but that the more you know about her the more you realize she is human- like you or I. Even a terrorist is still a person.

a person is not violating a restraining order if the person who sought it makes a point to see them. There are laws put in place to prevent restraining order abuse. For example- say he got the restraining order and then started going to her place of employment and forcing her to leave so she's not within so and so…

i've had similar experiences. a lot of it is part of how i was raised and how my sense and fear of abandonment (due to a childhood wrought with in and out parents) made me adopt behaviors of pleasing even if it was something i did not want it. i've frozen when an ex-boyfriend forced me into many things i did not want.…

I guess the down time between mass shootings is gonna start shrinking...

I remember, back in high school, during final exams they cracked down more than usual on how us ladies dressed. They cited an event the previous year where some male students did very poorly on their exams claiming the way girls dressed distracted them from finishing/paying attention. Their parents through a fuss too.

I know it won't change anything, but I would probably also try to find out who uploaded videos of the assult. I would say they're criminally liable- I'd charge depraved indifference. I get not getting involved because you fear for your own well-being, but actively supporting is different.