Maybe make a chore chart, with all the things that could be done on it, and just mark off the date when it was last done? So he can see- oh, the bathroom should be cleaned weekly, and it hasn’t been cleaned this week- I can do that! It’s not about who is cleaning, just a help with the timing of stuff. Or... yup that…

I have always told my husband DO NOT ASK me if you can go out with your friends. He is a grown ass man, he can make his own decisions. Check with me to make sure we don’t already have plans, sure, but I’m not his mommy. He doesn’t need to ask.

The nanny isn’t there when they have down time, only when they are both working. That means his wife is still there, alone, with the baby while he’s working out and seeing a movie. And it’s not that he went to see a movie, because I’m sure he deserves to do that. It’s that it didn’t occur to him that maybe his wife…

You should make a list of things that need to be done in order for the house to be cleaned, and have him agree that if, after a month or two of him helping with those things, it’s just not getting done, he will agree to hire a cleaner.

Please see a therapist, with or without your wife if she won’t go, and decide what to do. If you make good money, you can set her up to live well and still be able to live your own life and be happy. Everyone deserves that. I don’t begrudge the AM guy for seeking out happiness, only that he is lying and sneaking…

It seems to be more dishonesty-shaming. Most folks on here are pissed he can’t man up and have an honest conversation with his wife.

I have always asked my husband to just be honest with me. You think you need sex with another person? Fine. I value honesty FAR above monogamy. I might not be okay with him sleeping with someone else, but then we will come to a fair solution as a team. I’m not going to leave him out to dry, and I’m not going to put up…

I totally get this. And I don’t have an answer for you. I hope that you continue to be honest with her about your needs and feelings, and I hope she is honest with you about hers, and please consider sex positive counseling, as Kara says below. No one should feel alone in a relationship. I’ve been there. it’s awful.

I can understand that. And I assume both parties feel that way- the mom probably feels like her body is meant only for carrying, birthing, and feeding her children, and the father probably feels like he’s being totally neglected. And you can handle that in many ways- only one of which is having an affair without the…

you are the one who doesn’t know what fetish means. The dude cheated on his wife one time. That doesn’t mean he has a “fetish” for cheating. It means he is a cheater.

I don’t think you can safely say this is a “fetish”. All we know is he cheated once, “accidentally”, and would be open to cheating again. That’s just cheating, not a fetish. Also, what everyone else says about consent and honesty— regardless of any fetish one may have, you still owe it to your partner to be honest…

PLEASE EVERYONE— please do this. Please plan for end-of-life scenarios. My father died completely unexpectedly 6 months ago, in his early 50s and totally healthy. My mother is LOST. She didn’t know where anything was, didn’t know how to pay any bills, didn’t make enough money to live on, etc. etc. etc. She’s a tough,…