It's not, though. This is something we can actually have a reasoned discussion about. This is about painting trans girls as inherently threatening, pure and simple.

I'm sorry, but I honestly believe if I had taken your advice, I would be dead. If I now extended it to others, I would be culpable in their deaths. And I got punished for all sorts of things I didn't start.

That makes you either very very stupid, or intellectually dishonest.

Oh, I'm sorry, getting your ass kicked is not the same as having someone beat the shit out of you, despite the fact that they're both physical assaults, and violent maniacs traditionally having the incredible restraint to deliver an ass-kicking that doesn't end up with their victims getting the shit beat out of them.…

...and because of your awesome response, I'm going to let that bigotry stand for all the world to see.

Sigh. As the leader of WeePiglet's Brownie troop, I find myself bashing up against this kind of crap ALL. THE. TIME.

There's a huge amount of racism at play here. When they're not being characterized as sluts, black women are characterized as sexless and/or masculine. Not that there's anything wrong with a woman who's more masculine than most (and oh I could spend hours on how we categorize things as masculine or feminine) but this…

Your husband is so secure in his masculinity that he would inflict violence on someone because he assumes them to be cis, then finds out his assumption was incorrect? How is that not the most insecure reaction imaginable?

thanks again for your response!

I've definitely heard of the gay panic defense, I counseled a patient who was nearly acquitted due to it when I was still seeing patients through the Department of Corrections. The service was mandatory as part of my externship and in part was a way to pay back the university that had provided me with my doctorate…

My perspective is also as a woman, one who was also a teenaged girl who avoided locker rooms, open showers, and the like as much as I possibly could. And not just because of my anatomy (which was at least once mocked openly for its abnormality). And I genuinely feared for my safety with good reason when I was in those…

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Feminist guy here. Whine and cry all you want that women need to be better in bed, or that you've had some bad partners, but the sex will always be better if you focus on getting her off first - and you should go down on her as part of that- before thinking about your own orgasm.

It truly is amazing how different it is from when I was a child. I grew up in the 80s, and I had no idea what to do with the thoughts in my head. It took years for me eventually figure out what was going on and even longer to figure out what I needed to do to make myself be what I needed to be.

Are they really good tips though? There's complete lack of communication. Why not just say, "I love it when you touch me like ___" or "I get off so well when you stay on top and ___"? How about, "I hate initiating all the time, it makes me feel like I'm bugging you. It's so sexy when you come to me and it makes me…

And also....no feminist has ever been with a man who has either been circumcised or uncircumcised, let alone talked to our partners about their bodies and their experiences (we have sex with alien lentils, after all) so how on earth would we know about how men's physical pleasure or self-perception might be affected…

Ok so you need to come to my house for Sunday dinner. I am happy to be your new sister & I hope you like cats. The Ally sticker in my window ain't no joke.

How about, "fuck you, it is my car."

I view it largely as a medical issue to be treated. Other trans people have different views, but for me, it's something which is often mistaken as an identity which it is not. The discrimination I often face for being transgender is based on the idea it is at best some sort of mental condition and at worst a lifestyle…