Is the game industry really casual as it's often said to be? I would love a workplace like that :)

That sounds amazing :D Where do you work if you don't mind me asking?

That's a good idea, thanks :)

Also: anyone here wear heels every day? Thinking about getting some for work :)

He hasn't said that outright but he definitely likes the androgynous look on girls.

Yeah, that's true :) I don't know many male self-identifying feminists, though, and it is quite a major interest of mine. Maybe I should join a feminist society in the UK or something to see if I can meet some other guys like that.

Thank you for that. Yep, I have an abusive family too, which means that I sometimes don't set strong enough boundaries for myself in order to protect myself. That's what I need to do, though, before I can even think about finding a boyfriend. My family is also very, very "unconventional," and for a long time as a kid…

That's true. I actually prefer "boring," stable guys, though. I have very unconventional parents and had an awful childhood because of it, so I naturally tend to shy away from unconventionality even in my friends. I agree that I find him a bit stressful to be around sometimes (could just be my crush) - sometimes I…

Thanks, great advice! :) I'm not sure if I know him all that well yet, but I could probably get to know him better (he's pretty friendly - it's just that, as he already has a bit of a "flirty" relationship going on with a lot of other girls, I didn't want to be another one of those). I guess I could ask him if he…

Yeah... I don't like prejudging people, but obviously if he has different interests to me ("weird" or not) somebody's going to have to compromise or we both are.

Sorry, phrased that a bit wrong (I did actually use to be a tomboy, and I got a fair share of "masculine" types interested in me then, so I know what you mean).

I don't really like to chase guys, so isn't it truer that stereotypically more "masculine" types of guys will be more likely to chase me? Or am I looking at…

By "supporting equality for women is a baseline," do you mean that it's a good thing that he's a feminist, or that I shouldn't just go for him based on that (or mostly that) alone? Thanks :)

Thanks man, great advice. I'd rather not waste too much time even at 21, though (I'm extremely busy with my career right now too so time is a priority and I'd be better off single TBH). I know you can't always tell if a relationship is going to be good, but like you said I don't think I should bother if I kind of…

Thank you. Yep, that's what I was thinking of doing. I know it sounds highly subjective, but trusting my gut usually tends to work.

Fingers crossed :P

Meditation sounds good! I used to do that before, might try it again :) Same for visualisation. I'm stressed with work right now which isn't helping, but maybe I need more time off.

Just to clarify, I've never heard him say anything like "I only date androgynous women," but they've been brought up as a topic of conversation before (we're a pretty chatty artsy group of people into fashion) and he definitely likes them. I haven't explicitly heard him say he disliked girly girls like me, but he does…

Yeah, realistically I can't see this going anywhere long term.

Maybe, but he flirts with girls who have boyfriends as well, which is rather OTT in my opinion. "Jealous" or no, I don't really think that is OK. I would be upset if I were one of the boyfriends and I saw him talking to my girlfriend like that. But…

I'm trying that, but it's like trying not to think about him makes me think about him more... Thanks though, maybe I'm doing it wrong.

I don't think I will ever ask out a guy again TBH, I just don't want to risk myself that much. Maybe it's selfish but I need to emotionally protect myself. I have a history of…

Why is "androgynous" a bad term? (Forgive my 1am tired mind :P)

Thanks :). It's not really about he sees me so much, TBH- I just want to be over him. I know deep down he's not what I want long term, due to the drugs/flirting with other women.