Yep, I don't like players.

Yeah, I'll do that, thanks. I've tried doing other things, but it's harder than I thought to ge him off my mind. I usually turn to my friends, but we're all busy w/work before Christmas which makes it difficult :S

Haha, I will! Do you live in the country, or just a city full of hipsters? :P

Oh, right. That sucks, although I guess they had to do something about the gifs. Nice to meet you anyway.

Out of curiosity, why do you think he's a loser/douche? Because of the drugs thing or being a hipster? Or overly flirty with people? (Not…

Ah, that sucks! :( *virtual hugs*

I know enough guys to know that guys don't always ask out a girl if they like her (we're not that close anyway) for various reasons. But, yeah, I would rather be with a guy who asked me out. Maybe this makes me a Bad Feminist, but I like guys to chase.

Thank you again! You sound fabulous too <3 I... guess so lol! I'm kind of long term minded, though, and I don't want to date for no reason (I am not that into short term hookups etc). I guess I could flirt with him or something, but even if he was interested back I know deep down he's not really what I want.

OK, any tips on how to get over him? (My brain knows you're right about the conformist v non conformist thing too).

I was great at getting over teenage crushes, but now that I'm an adult (legally/with a career anyway) it's much harder because I'm starting to like guys for less shallow reasons. I've never even fancied a…

Oh, that's funny. When I click on your name (out of curiosity - haven't seen you around here before lol, am trying to get to know more Jezzies), it doesn't bring up anything.

He hasn't actually stated that outright to me, but I've heard him say (not to me, just in general conversation) that he really likes the…

Because he does drugs, he flirts with girls who have boyfriends, or both?

Yeah, I just want to get over him haha... Even just asking you guys is helping. Am afraid to tell RL friends, lol.

Hey GIRL :D Thank you! Honestly I can't ask him out, though... (see my reply to Tastycakes above - want to be single right now, and my history of depression makes rejection hell for me).

Thanks :) I know I can, but in all honesty I'd rather not. I feel like I'd rather be single right now either. Even if I didn't, I've felt awful enough (awkward/hurt - history of depression made it worse) the one time I got rejected by a guy last time. Not happening again.

Thanks! Glad to hear you like the picture XD... obviously I couldn't use a picture of him :P

That's true, but long term I couldn't see myself with someone like him D: Not just because of the fact he's a hipster, but he does drugs, which he has no intention of stopping (don't ask me how I know). While I'm not anti drugs…

HALP HALP HALP ;)

But, seriously, neither of us are students any more. D'you reckon dating someone "non-conformist" is a recipe for disaster, though?

Also, is this your first post on Jezebel? Welcome!

I FEEL YOUR PAIN

Fellow feminists, I need your advice on a crush of mine :(

So I have a really big thing for a male acquaintance of mine (he's 32, I'm 21). He is cute and looks like this:

The hipster-ish male acquaintance I fancy right now looks like this. Beard, flannel shirts, scarves, and all.

Hahahahahaha :D

That must have been pretty bad. It's a shame religious parents can't always respect the right to religious freedom their children have. I admire your bravery in standing up to him - have seen a lot of my friends go through similar situations with Christian and Muslim parents.

I don't think there's anything wrong with…

Possibly, yeah. My preferences completely changed over the last few years, and, recently, I've gone more for much "masculine" guys, lol. I'm 20 now and have grown a much stronger personality too (I'm an ENTJ), and though I certainly don't expect guys to adhere to gender roles, it would feel weird being with someone…

I know. Definition of phucking stupid, to say the least. The ignorance, it burns!

/MRAlogicforyou *facepalm*