“What did you do to make him do that?”

She is!

Every woman everywhere all the time. And we’re supposed to be good sports about it.

I KNOW, RIGHT?!! In the Daily Fail (I couldn’t resist reading their coverage of this), the reporter noted that there were six women on the jury and two men. In the jury interviews, they were dismissing jurors who had experienced similar types of sexual assaults, and I was thinking, “How did you find six women who…

I think it goes down both ways. If someone messes with me, my husband gets pissed and wants to defend me. If someone messes with him, I’d do the same. Being in a partnership is throwing down for each other.

Not to mention this common follow-up, “for YEARS after, I wondered if it was my fault.”

This, so much this. A woman knows when she’s been groped. Even as we’re second-guessing ourselves, we know.

I am a strong, angry feminist, and my boyfriend is the same way you describe. I’d be lying if I didn’t admit that I liked it. For me, it’s knowing that if I’m gonna throw down, my ride-or-die is gonna be there to back me up.

RIGHT. Several years ago I was groped on a busy subway and I remember thinking at first that I *must* be mistaken. There were so many people around - surely one of them would say something? Ughhh makes me sick just to think about it. I’ve played it over in my head so many times on how I wish I had reacted differently.

totally agree. and part of it is wishful thinking because if it’s not an accident...what’s about to happen next?

And it’s a totally irrational thought, totally independent of the big part of our brains! I mean, the big part of your brain is feeding you all the correct information— I can feel a hand on my bare ass, there is a man standing next to me, and yes, it is his hand— and still, your thought is “Wait, is this maybe…

I know! I was SO ANGRY at the BF’s reaction for a long time after, and I couldn’t really figure out why. I thought I must have wanted him to go punch the guy in the face or something, but I eventually realized that I was upset because he literally just didn’t seem to care. I wanted him to be angry on my behalf. I…

I think this is a little chauvinistic, but if my fiancee (girlfriend at the time) told me someone grabbed her ass at the bar, I’d flip a shit.

I think millions of women read that line and nodded in agreement.

Unfortunately, I know how you feel. I’m glad you dumped that shithead, too.

I had almost this exact thing happen to me on my 21st birthday. I went to a bar (stone-cold sober! not that it fucking matters), was about to order a drink, and then I felt someone’s hand reach up my dress (a modest t-shirt dress, again, not that it fucking matters), grab my bare ass cheek, and give it a long, solid…

Fucker can burn.

What I hate too is that HE sued her! She didn’t even press charges, it was just relayed to his bosses and he sues her

I KNOW. I had to actually CONVINCE my very nice boyfriend that this wasn’t something stupid to get pissed about. Like, why can’t men see anything? I’m so sick of them. I’m tired of being belittled by them in every single situation and told not to be so sensitive.

And they’re all on there saying shut up, it’s just a beer, it’s just a joke, you pussy bitch snowflakes. And trying to explain to these idiots what rape culture is would be out of the question. And I just hate so many people today.