Yeah, I keep telling myself that rape culture is a hell of a drug and that these girls will hopefully come around. But I’m done giving predatory dudes the benefit of the doubt, and I will intervene every single time my spidey-sense goes off.

Said girl (one of those 19-year-old, ‘not like other girls’ girls), who remembered nothing of the evening, ended up giving me a condescending lecture about how he’s a “really nice guy” and I was “letting my political ideology cloud my judgment” and should “stop hating men.” I told her I’d rather have 1,000 lectures…

I hate that “male feminist is a wolf in sheep’s clothing” has become such a stereotype, because how do we get male allies if we can’t trust men who try to be allies. But man...it was so hard during #MeToo to see these “confessions” from male feminists who I know to be abusive who were like, “When I was younger I…

It’s cases like this that make it clear how full of crap people are when they wring their hands about “ruining a man’s life” without “proof.” All of these guys were able to behave as badly as they wanted, as often as they wanted, wherever they wanted, no matter who tried to stop them. Meanwhile, think of how much of…

I totally get the criticism, but for me it was an opportunity to start a conversation about sexual abuse in a small community I’m a part of. I’d wanted to tell the story for years, but I never had a jumping off point for the conversation. Since posting about it on Facebook, I’ve had a bunch of people message me…

I’m merely highlighting that people tend to think that they are “straight shooters” and want scathing criticism. But you’re right, most scathing criticism isn’t helpful. I don’t think that a more inductive approach is coddling at all, but a lot of people equate it as such. The positivity sandwich gets a bad rap, but…

I would say that in most bad news scenarios, giving feedback is intrinsic to breaking the bad news in the most effective way. Let’s say I have to cut an athlete from a team. I can either say “sorry, you’ve been cut, better luck next year” or I can say “You didn’t make the team because you’re not yet as quick as other…

Giving bad news and negative feedback is especially hard because there’s such a disconnect between how people say they want feedback and how they actually respond to feedback. I teach writing for a living and coach in a couple of sports on the side, and probably 95% of people, when asked, will say “give it to me…

This story once again highlights the lengths people will go to to allow sexual predators to be comfortable. In my extended friend group, there were two guys: one guy who would get drunk and try to start fights, and one guy who multiple women had accused of behaviour ranging from sexual assault to general creepiness.

I found Tig Notaro’s comments distancing herself from Louis CK really interesting. There do seem to be a lot of female comedians taking a step back from him. At the time that the allegations came out in 2012, I remember a lot of comments on articles being like “oh, yeah, that’s totally something that’s known about…

I’m 7 months into medication-resistant HG and I wouldn’t wish that shit on my worst enemy. My grandma had 7 kids and had HG for the entire time of every single pregnancy. I’m like, “Sorry baby. You’re going to be an only child.”

Get some cheap ovulation predictor test strips off Amazon (I like the Wondfo). Use those for a few months to figure out your cycle. On the cycle I conceived, I didn’t ovulate until Day 24, so if I’d been planning my bangin’ around Day 14 I would have been SOL. I had 4 chemical pregnancies in a year, then conceived…

I was bitten by a guy during a Queens of the Stone Age set. Weirdest experience of my concert-going life.

By working for Donald Trump, Delgado worked to take rights away from other women. She worked to make life harder for poor families, single mothers, people of colour etc. She worked to create a less tolerant, more polarized society. The fact that she’s feeling the effects of that work doesn’t generate much sympathy in…

Interestingly, there was recently a study found that women whose pregnancies were supplemented with progesterone were significantly more likely to have a gay child. I laugh at the idea that this super fringe Catholic group is accidentally creating some of those homosexuals they love to complain about.

Sue Perkins had a long history of hosting food-related shows. The Supersizers Go is one of my favourites!

I was recently listening to an episode of The Longest, Shortest Time, about a woman who lost her dad and became an alcoholic after the premature birth of her son. Because she drank wine and was the “fun mom,” she struggled to recognize it in herself.

And here I thought that Shakespeare guy is doing an amazing job and getting recognized more and more.

Actually, reproductive endocrinologists these days work REALLY hard to give you only one baby at a time. Sometimes people do transfer two embryos, but that’s often in cases when they only expect one to stick. IUI has a greater chance of multiples, but often that’s from cycles that doctors cancelled because the woman…

I read some of the comment sections when various Montana newspapers pulled their endorsements and it filled me with despair. They were all variations of “what would you do if someone came to your place of work and started getting in your face asking you questions? Anyone would have done the same thing! Good for him!”