Meh - if one’s making amends and harms the recipient further, one isn’t actually making an amends.  The whole “amends” thing means sincerely atoning for behavior and changing one’s ways. It doesn’t mean revictimizing anyone.

The difference between Joss Whedon and Louis CK is that Whedon actually made things that I enjoyed, while Louis CK I never thought was funny. I always thought he was an asshole. 20 years ago I had no idea Whedon was the dick he’s now coming out to be and I was enjoying the TV shows and movies he made.

But why does everyone pick and choose who gets a reckoning and who gets to walk? Everyone in Hollywood still adores Woody Allen, though he most likely molested his daughter. And no one in the music industry has condemned Michael Jackson, even though it is now known that he was a pedophile.

I just think its strange that people are immediately distrustful of the black actor who speaks up and only feels there is something to be believed when a white woman shares her own story about the same person.

For me, the worst part was when she felt guilty about Ray being fired because she still felt that if she’d said something, things might have been different, despite overwhelming evidence that nothing of the kind would have happened. 

I would add that I come across most unhinged when I’m being subject to abusive and bizarre treatment. It makes you feel insane and you act as such.

I agree with this take completely. In fact, reading other comments here where folks are calling him a coward for not just standing up for himself with regard to Camilla are missing the fact that he had the will metaphorically beaten out of him when he was still young. The royals broke him (which it sounds like it…

Charles, real and fictional, is such a worthless weenie, oh my god.

I know we can worry about more than one thing at a time, but I think right now when the Trump Administration is literally and actually trying to carry out a subtle, slow motion coup, we should maybe set aside the complaints about Star Wars.

I was a latchkey kid in the 70s and early 80s. I spent sooo much time goofing off with my friends all over the neighborhood, totally unsupervised. Rode the bus or my bike all over town — a small city of about a million people at the time. When my peers started breeding in the 90s I couldn’t understand “playdates” —…

Has anyone noticed (/s) that the longer guys like Whedon get away with shit, the worse they get? The notion of men getting harmless as they age is an especially toxic one.

Yeah, I can see how it is made in jest with no ill will implied, but the optics are a bit off. 

Is Jez really doing a story about “how will the short little black lady swim”??? About the most amazing U.S. amateur female athlete? Yikes.

I mean, “anticlimactic ending” is one of Stephen King’s trademarks. I love the dude - he’s my favorite author - but while he’s a great storyteller, he’s a TERRIBLE story ender. Except for The Dark Tower, which I know a lot of people hated but was, in my opinion, a perfect ending. 

I get really annoyed sometimes with how tv shows portray PTSD. I get that they used to not do so at all, so maybe its an improvement, but usually it’s a one or two episode arc of the character realizing they’ve got lingering trauma, learning to deal with it, and then it’s never mentioned again.

Yeah. that. As a society we ignore suffering, and laud these juveniles with their little boy logics. Suffering tends to bring insight and greater understanding for others (although not always), but it’s a tough sell. I mean, Katy Perry can sell records about cats and jungles, but it’s going to be an uphill battle to…

On the real though, the best sex I’ve had has always been with the dudes that aren’t necessarily classically handsome, but still exude confidence. I got dickmatized by this one dude about ten years ago that just by glancing at you would NEVER think it’d be like that. But it was, and I thought I might never make it out…

And yet, when I point this out to people caught in this cycle, they don’t see it. They have completely drunk the proverbial Kool-Aid and continue to believe the lie that Canada is a good place to live where you will have a high standard of living. That was true until late 2008. At that time, I was working for the…

Seconded on language learning. Even with a couple of semesters of Portuguese I found I could understand about half of what people said, which meant I couldn’t understand the other half. Sadly, I found this true with French, which I was far more familiar with. Grammar study is no substitute for aural comprehension.…

To add to that, the point about learning as much as you can of the local language is a bit pie in the sky. My experience is that even if you have a pretty good command of a foreign language, when you get to the place you learn that nobody actually speaks the language you just learned. And you have to go back to the…