Once I and another staff member watched a 2-3 year old boy wander over and start pulling the slips from the books on hold, as is the way of his people.

Ah, I mentioned his name and new articles appeared, it’s like Candyman but with Korean Makjang!

I know, right?! I mean, I read it and thought to myself “that is an excellent stripper name. Well done, lady”. It combines fruit, confectionary, a slightly shadowy woodsy feel... Perfect!

I totally read it as “Candy Groves” and assumed it was her stripper name. Hunh.

Totally agree that KSH was probably just trying not to air all of this. I just feel incredibly bad for him and his mom. Totally awkward to have the younger sister announce it on the back of her single release, and in a way that kind of leaves him and his agency having to explain everything. Yeesh.

We appropriate Asian shit like crazy, of course, but I have to think there are enough Korean-Americans bopping around the music scene that they’d mention that certain lyrics aren’t going to fly in the US.

The entire thing is completely amazing. She accused him of beating her and possibly causing her to miscarry, he denied for a while before he issued a public apology and gave her $600k, then they went to Jeju together, then they broke up again and she announced she was pregnant and then he went to military service and…

Bom’s sweet and I like her more than I thought I would in variety, but - America would eat her alive. There’s just too much work that’s been done, and facial plastic surgery has a different tone in Korea than in the US. It’s hard to pick apart why this just wouldn’t work... In the US, you can fuck up your body as much…

That’s what I immediately thought of: it’s Park Bom. The drug smuggling and, unfortunately, the unsettling surgeries.

I’m trying to think, you might be right and it’s single-instance. I’m thinking about it from the angle of what it fixed (me jumping out of my skin every time a man came in the door behind me) but the therapy itself was mostly focused on the actual encounter... Then again there was some other visualization part of it…

Having read a lot of contemporary accounts around sexual behavior during the entire Roman Polanski thing - yeah, the 70s were super fucked up. Age, consent, intoxication, the whole thing was somewhat up in the air.

Ah man, sorry to hear that - glad to hear you’re getting help. I’m not sure if EMDR would work in that situation, but I do wholly recommend it. I thought it was a little out-there when it was first described, but I’m generally a more skeptical person who unfortunately doesn’t respond to more touchy-feely techniques…

Yeah, it’s just... I kind of wish I had a more noble instinct and had checked it out anyhow? You always second-guess when you feel you’ve fallen short.

I was in the grays to begin with, but I did stop getting any stars 8 hours ago and now can’t view the first reply to Jia from the post’s main page.

Enforcement is not necessarily swift, but packs a punch.

I see a difference there, though - banning commenters is selective, and while it is disruptive to cliques it’s also not done in the open. It’s also generally understood to be partly on the commenter. The prior back-and-forths with writers and commenters I’ve seen is generally one-to-one, and generally has a core issue…

I truly don’t understand how they miss that this behavior hits their bottom line: it degrades the brand, it drives away “good” commenters, and it creates an actual paper trail of dickish attitudes that any prospective future employer can follow. They’re also setting the bar for acceptable behavior - if Jia pulls this…

For some godawful reason, no one on the Jezebel editorial side of the fence has ever taken a crash-course on comment moderation and so have no idea how bad this can get. There is a very good reason why, in many places, authors are prohibited from directly engaging with users. Those are usually more litigious…

Oh my god, stop. STOP. For the love of god stop engaging commenters only to be dismissive and insulting. There is absolutely no upside, both for you and for Jezebel.

Ha, I actually started training as an EMT during a lull in the job market for my specialty, and did a lot of the post-Sandy medical flood checks. I could still do EMT work on a volunteer basis, technically, but it’s a lot of puke and breathing difficulties and false alarms. My day job, which I’m going to keep vague,…