If you don’t want kids by all means don’t have them but if you do want them not having them isn’t going to keep the marriage together either.

For legal protections and financial advantages I decided to get married (I say I because he was always for it, he didn’t have the reservations I did with my parents’ marriage being horrible).

This is a thing now? Not sure why they thought this would fix the issues with it.

I like that one but I also like breathing room money, less anxiety money, able to see a future where your goals are realized and you have the opportunity to be happier money(not guaranteed but it’s hard to be happy when you’re living paycheck to paycheck on a fundamental level of always fearing a tiny thing possibly…

I definitely feel better overall all the time now that we have a cushion. It also allowed us to make this relocation from California to Georgia possible which meant we could finally stop feeling stuck in our lives.

I come off very cold, as well as my whole message, when using one instead of you. Especially online. So it’s easier to just use the notice once and continue using you instead.

That could get someone in a load of problems if the person in question found out and tried to get rehired and you didn’t rehire them. Not worth it. Best is for all co workers, bosses, and hr to not comment on anything. Anything else can cause problems no one has time to deal with.

They’re not allowed by their company to say anything either. The company doesn’t want to get sued and they still possibly can if you write a letter of recommendation or be a reference even if you’re simply a coworker. It’s gotten bad.

My hub’s companies he’s worked for do not allow even their employees to recommend someone let alone be a reference.

You also have to remember that what one considers success may not be really what you want as your success. And also you may not want or be willing to make the sacrifices others are to be successful. And one day they may regret those sacrifices and see your life as a success and theirs as ultimately a failure. It’s…

Note: you here is not you personally but more of an impersonal pronoun for anyone reading this.

Did you not see the luck part at the bottom?

I think the thing that helped me succeed was not giving up(when what you have is a good thing, by all means give up on horrible people and ideas). Not so much me not giving up but my husband not giving up. That’s probably what a lot of successful people have in common no matter what they’re successful in.

Eh. Hub has had the positon eliminated as part of the layoff. The whole thing was not laying off people but reducing positions to make it tighter. They can actually do that as part of a layoff.

He couldn’t even play at this level if he wanted to. One was close to being a VP and the other was his boss’ boss that he never saw or interacted with.

I had a friend not change her name because of background checks and security clearances for work that she often had to go through which just made those a bigger headache if she did change it.

He doesn’t care and he certainly doesn’t need your sympathy.

That’s why it all goes down in a layoff. Easy time to get rid of people you hate or settle the score you have against someone else by letting go someone they’re associated with that’s lower.

Another reason I’m so glad I didn’t change my name. I did it for laziness, tradition of my culture (the only one I continue to do), but mainly because I don’t like the idea of being the only one of the group that has to change to be part of a marriage/family. I can do that with never changing my name. But even if that…

I’d have gotten rid of both and gotten a better admin assistant that wasn’t crazy. If someone isn’t working out for any reason it’s time to get someone who will work. Assuming of course what I’m asking for for the pay makes sense. Otherwise I’ll take the best with what the pay gets me.